I love her so much, we been dating for 1 year already. We gotten really serious, she wanted to move in with me, so I did let her, ever since she moved in with me, my passion for her had decreased but I still love her though. She shown her true side while living with me. She started to get really annoying while living with me. She never been this annoying before we lived together. This has been going on for 2 months already. I am not sure if I will plan to marry her anymore, I planned to marry her before she moved in with me though. Any clues on how can I get back my passion?
2007-02-23 03:49:11 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What you're experiencing is natural, you find out about the little quirks in a person's personality when you live together. If you truly love her these little annoyances shouldn't be a big deal, and trust me, she's having the same feelings about you. You both have to adjust to each other and learn to live with the little imperfections or annoyances, that's what it's all about. But if these things are that big of an issue, maybe you should take a break. Your passion has decreased because of these things that annoy you. Let go of all the little things, they're not worth losing the one you love. When you let them all go your passion will come back, but it does decrease after a while anyway (not in 2 months though). If you prefer you can always try talking with her about everything, but when you do, be tactful, yet lay it all out on the table, you'll be surprised how well this works sometimes, but be prepared to take come criticism from her as well, like I said.....she is dealing with some of the same feelings you are. Good luck and I hope all goes well for you. If you need any further help, feel free to e-mail me.
2007-02-23 04:41:24 · answer #1 · answered by Steel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, this is how true love is. Once you live apart from eachother, you see that your partner is only limited with some communication. Once you become next to eachother for a period of time, arguements and fights may break out. This is caused from one always being around eachother. This can happen with anyone, a brother, sister, mother, father, boyfriend, girlfriend..
Fights are common and very important in a relationship. They show if someone and a couple are willing to forgive and move on. Fights are actually a true test of your love for your partner. Now, it's when fights get violent when you should move out. Fights are like love meters.
The question is, should you stick with your girlfriend if you have too many fights that tend to explode? I'd say, if your fights are love hate fights, then maybe your situation is minor. If your fights result in abuse, and violence, leave before the cops come. Whatever you do though, don't resist from arguements. If your girlfriend doesn't like arguements, then maybe she's not ready for anyone. Because the only way for a relationship to work is for compromising, and arguing things out. No relationship can be perfect, therefore no relationship can be all happy and lovey without some "what the hells".
2007-02-23 11:57:49 · answer #2 · answered by alco19357 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are the things she does that bothers you? Maybe you should talk to her about it. Of course you see her true side now. The only way to know someone is to live with them or spend a lot of time with them. At least you found out now before you ask her to marry you and found this out later. Now you can help her improve herself and she will be able to help you improve yourself as well. Maybe there are things you do that annoys her. If you both talk about these things, then you both should feel better in the end. Good luck.
2007-02-23 11:55:44 · answer #3 · answered by bluegirl5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the reality stroke you. The reality of love has two sides: romance/passion and commitment. I think passion holds the parts of each other that is very enjoyable such as complementary personality, sexual intercourse, great conversations etc. However, commitment (usually done through marital vows) holds onto the different aspect of each other such as gender difference, thought difference, personality difference, religious difference, difference on worldview, etc. It is the commitment that will make you patient to learn about your partner. So once you are committed to her and let every difference be the mystery that needs discovering, and to be respected, there will be passion all over again. Unless, of course, you discover that you are totally not right for each other.
2007-02-23 12:00:16 · answer #4 · answered by dansdna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though you have been with her for a year doesn't mean yo really knew her, you really don't know someone till you live with them, I know from experience. If you really love her still and want to evenually marry her you need to live apart again and really get to know each other that way. She should spend the weekend over your place so you guys can still have that closeness but still have your separte lives also.
2007-02-23 12:00:51 · answer #5 · answered by dreamangel1102002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live separately. They say you never know a person until you live with them. I know married couples that live separately. They get along much better. But it's not for everybody, some people can't live alone.
2007-02-23 11:54:50 · answer #6 · answered by Tonya W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe youre just not ready to settle down yet
2007-02-23 11:54:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront her about it NICELY tho!! good luck! hope everything works out great for ya!
2007-02-23 11:52:49 · answer #8 · answered by tls_2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't know a person til you live with them.
2007-02-23 11:53:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋