My babys dad isnt paying childsupport and says I can have our son all to myself with him not having any visitation right. And I agree I dont want him to pay child support cause I dont want him having rights to the baby, but the government still requires me to ask for his consent on doing things like getting a passport, how do me and my babys dad make it offical that he doesnt have anything to do with the baby and I dont neeed his permission to do anything conserning the baby?Is there a form?I really neeed help
2007-02-23 03:36:44 · 9 answers · asked by Lisa 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Go to a lawyer and have the baby's dad sign away all parental rights-very sad for the baby though.
2007-02-23 03:40:38 · answer #1 · answered by Maria b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a court order cutting off all of his parental rights.
However that may not be as easy as you think. If you can not prove that you can support both the child and yourself without any child support from him, the court is going to be unwilling to do as you wish because their first concern is to see that the child is taken care of and that you and the child do not end up on welfare.
So first, you need a decent job that makes sufficient money that the court is not going to worry. It needs to be one that allows you to work AND take care of the child. If it is a business that has a day care for the employees' kids, that would be about perfect. You need to show that you are doing well at the job and not in danger of being fired for absenteeism or other issues.
Judging by your writing skills, ("me and my babys dad") you are not in any kind of white collar job and are lacking in higher education. Having a college degree would really help your situation.
Second, you need to show that you have a support group. What are your plans if your kid is sick and can not go to day care? Will your job let you stay home to take care of the kid? If not, do you have parents or friends that can help out?
Lastly, the dad needs to come into the court and verbally state he is willing to give up all rights now and forever to the kid. He needs to state he knows that if you get married and the new husband wants to adopt the kid, the new husband will be free and clear to do so and the dad can not say one word. He needs to know that he can not claim the kid on taxes and if asked if he has any children (assuming this is the only one) his answer is to be "NO". Lastly he needs to know that if he tries to look up the kid after his parental rights have ended that can be considered stalking.
Bottom line, if you can not show you can support the kid on your own, I seriously doubt the court will do what you want due to the child support issue.
2007-02-23 11:50:52 · answer #2 · answered by forgivebutdonotforget911 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think long and hard before you do this. Child support is not for you, its for the baby. Even if you decide you don't want or need his support, you should be putting the money away for your child. Your child may end up blaming you for not having a relationship with dad. Make him responsible, he was there when the child was conceived and owes the baby something!
2007-02-23 12:02:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please contact an attorney who is representing your interests alone. I have no idea what your options are and whether the process would vary from state to state...but this is definitely a question that goes beyond the expertise of the average person on Yahoo answers.
Chances are, if someone knows enough about the intricacies and the legalities of what you're proposing, then they're going to be too busy utilizing those skills to cruise these boards.
Wishing you all the best though - doesn't sound like a good situation to be in. Hope you get the resolution you seek!
2007-02-23 11:47:32 · answer #4 · answered by CassandraM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but you can't legally give away the child's right to a parent or child support. Once he was identified as the father, and he failed to challenge it with a paternity action, he was on the hook.
You can deal with some of the issues by asking a probate or family court for sole physical and legal custody, which will eliminate the passport and medical care issues, but if you receive welfare, food stamps, etc., the government can compel you to go after him for support.
2007-02-23 11:47:28 · answer #5 · answered by thylawyer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
god you are stupid. don't do anything. he doesn't see the kid and you get no money....try a 2 week trial. if you don't need the money and he doesn't want to play daddy then make it a month. keep doing the trial for 2 years. if it works out keep it going. if after 2 years you don't need money and he doesn't want the kid great. one last thing. GOD YOU ARE STUPID!!! if you find a loving and sensitive partner these are the words he wants to say but won't, so i will.....lets take the father out of the equation. you want to raise a child alone without financial support. god you are stupid. you are an unfit parent and the child should raised elsewhere. you can violate me for insulting others all day long but you read it and you cannot forget it. TSK TSK TSK babies having babies
2007-02-23 12:05:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can get a lawyer , and sign his rights away , it still may not get him out of child support though. the government is making it harder for people to ignore their responsibilities , It is yours and his responsibility not taxpayers which is what happens in most cases , not saying it is in your case , but most try to give up a child , then the parent ends up medicaid or WIC to pay for (formula and food for the baby) if you are any financial assistance for the baby they will still order support , even if no state assistance they could have support ordered anyway it depends on what kind of mood the judge is in .. I have seen it happen
2007-02-23 11:48:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need is a lawyer, and your baby's dad needs one more than you do. What's to say that ten years from now you don't change your mind about not having him pay child support? Then what? A verbal agreement on this topic isn't worth spit. Everything needs to be on paper, approved by the courts.
Both of you need to get a lawyer and handle this the right way.
2007-02-23 11:40:40 · answer #8 · answered by Team Chief 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arrange an appointment with the local courthouse or your local lawyer to set things up. If you want to save money, you could go to the courthouse and talk to the librarian there, or if you're not tight for cash talk to a lawyer (some give free consultations over the phone).
2007-02-23 11:45:34 · answer #9 · answered by dlancelot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋