me and my boyfriend are planning to have sex for the first time?

Question

im 15 almost 16 and i have been with boyfriend for 1 1/2 years now. we are really close and are going to have sex for the first time together, im a virgin and hes not, im worried he might think im crap. help any tips for me? Thanks

Answer 1

First of all, you should wait untill your 16 but if you are gonna do it, be prepared. Don't expect it to be earth shattering, my first time hurt which is totally normal but I thought there was something wrong with me. Secondly, he knows it's your first time and if he's a decent lad he'll understand. The biggest thing is to relax and go with the flow. If you can though, I advise you to wait untill your 16th. Use protection!

Answer 2

Don't worry about your performance. Of course you'll be crap, you've never done it before. Even if you turn out to be a natural, you'll just be responding to him, and you won't know what you're doing.

Remember that he was a virgin once, so there was a time when he didn't know what he was doing either (perhaps he still doesn't). He shouldn't be able to blame you for your performance, unless you're an incredibly quick learner.

You probably will be "crap", but he won't think so. You'll get much better with practice as you begin to pick up what pleases you and what pleases him. Take it slow and communicate and be patient.

IMPORTANT: use protection and lubricant. Just trust me on this one.

Answer 3

If you are going to do this, get protection! That is number one priority. While I'm not virginity police, try to remember that this could change everything. Emotions can get really charged really fast and that can be a lot to handle with school and the plain annoyances of being a teenager alongside all those other unpredictable teenagers. Just be careful and really think this out. If you still think it's a great idea, just be cool and natural and let your feelings tell you what to do, not some stupid magazine or locker room gossip.

Answer 4

My dear child,
I am old enough to be your grandmother,and am sorry that you are thinking of having sex so early.Has no one told you that sex is not a pastime, but something to be cherished,something you should have with only one person!If you start so young, how do you think you will live the rest of your life?
Will you keep having sex with different persons?Then you will not value it, nor will your partners!Worse, you will be a mental,emotional and physical wreck!
Consult your mother, or your religious guide, or some one you respect, not all and sundry on this important topic.Best wishes and blessings!

Answer 5

Ok first of all if he has had sex before HOw old is he? Next if you are worried about not pleasing him you are not ready. agive yourself some time and think about it. And if you deciede thaT he is the one to take your virginity, be sure to wear protection. ayou should have some in case he says that he doesnt. Always be prepared. Good Luck

Answer 6

Wow! The same thing happened to me this month. Come to find it out, he couldn't believe I was a virgin by the way I had performed. The only difference is that I'm 19 and he's 29, and we plan on getting married and are quite serious about it. Be safe, have him to wear a condom, and go get some other form of birth control. Don't worry and just take it easy.

Answer 7

Pliz dont pliz dont i mean theres this empty feeling after really there is but anyway its upto you what will it add to the relationship why not wait until ur wedding really those r my thoughts remember its easy to lose ur virginity but impossible to get it back beleive me one day ull wish u stayed a virgin ur very young 16 is young

Answer 8

I agree with April C.

BTW, I love the "planning to have sex." It's not taking a vacation or going out to dinner.

My pyschic reading: You will regret it later in life, or sooner, just like the other 2,450,400,298,547,598 other kids (and older) that had sex too soon with people they didn't love (enough).

Answer 9

Yeah i got a tip for you DONT F***ing DO IT! you are too young and you dont know if they have only been holding out for it. you need to wait till youre older. what if he is not the guy for you and when you do marry the man of your dreams he is not your first then you are gonna regret it cause your first time was with someone you thought you loved. there is too much at risk.

Answer 10

you are way to young to make a major step like that, you guys have been together for a long time, but have you thought about the things that can come out of this. Getting pregnant?? You should wait till your older. if he really cares sbout you he waould wait as long as it takes.