Yes, tell them. They screwed you over.
2007-02-23 03:21:03
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answered by Caleb F 1
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Think about it. If the guy is normal, he might FLIP OUT and come after your husband with a gun or knife or bat or a big piece of iron and kill your husband. There are always consequences. You can't just blame your husband, are you absolutely positive you didn't have anything to do with it? My wife is a total crazy, nut-case right now. She cries for no reason, she yells at our daughter, she wakes me in the middle of the night to ask me if she woke me when she went to pee, she sobs and shakes. I try to comfort her. I tell her everything is going to be okay. I hold her for hours and do all the chores and support her in every way I can think of. But, no one is "there" for me. Just because I am a man doesn't mean I am a complete "island". Sometimes I need some reassurance that I am making the right decisions. Even single guys have some kind of friend network. So, before you go telling the ladies husband, you need to think about the repercussions that may take place. If I had any less of a conscience, my ex-wife would not be alive today. She doesn't even know how close she was to being hurt beyond anyone's comprehensible imagination. So, you are hurt. And you want revenge? Maybe you should just pass go and collect your 200 dollars. Be grateful that you get to start over and leave the past in the past. Remember what happened to Laci Peterson. That stuff really happens. Thank God that he just cheated on you, and that was it.
2007-02-23 03:41:45
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answered by Anonymous
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Gees people, is it any wonder why divorce is so rampant in our society? Spouses don't generally stray unless they aren't getting what they need (affection, appreciation, and admiration) at home! Sounds like your husband has probably been "paying" for quite some time now or he wouldn't be dipping his pen elsewhere. Do you withhold sex as punishment? Do you treat him with respect and appreciation? If you answer yes to the first, and no to the second, I'd say you bear a lot of the blame for him looking outside the home for those things!!!
I just love the modern woman. They treat their husbands like garbage, and then wonder why they stray! Treat your man with appreciation, admiration, and show him plenty of affection, and he'd move a mountain to make sure you are happy!!! Is it any wonder that when you treat him like crap, that he'll look elsewhere for those things?
It is important that her husband know what is going on so that he can protect his family, but it isn't your job to tell him. Go to her and tell her that she'd better tell him or you will. Tell her that she has 2 weeks, and then you're going to inform him.
Yeah, yeah. I'm sure I'll get a lot of thumbs down for my comment, but think about it before you vote. What I say is true, and if you want to keep your man, which way do you think would work better?
2007-02-23 04:02:50
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answered by Karl 4
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Plain and simple, your husband and his wife made a decision to be unfaithful to both of you. Their decision is made. Now you and her husband deserve a chance to make your decision of whether you leave or stay. You have to tell him, since it's apparent that she won't. He deserves to make the choice for himself, as you do. We can't make relevant decisions when we don't possess the truth or all the facts...and he doesn't have either. Tell him. But make sure you tell him in front of her and your husband if possible. I don't believe in sneaking around to do anything. I feel like if you're man or woman enough to make a bad choice, you should be man or woman enough to face up and deal with the consequences.
He may not believe you but you're just there to present the facts and then leave it alone. If he decides to believe and stay with his wife, that's his decision.
2007-02-23 03:43:22
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answered by moe497 2
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Not only would I tell him, but I'd probably ask him out, too. Cheating seems to lose its appeal when it's not a secret, anymore. As a matter of fact, it makes it more painful for the cheater when they see that the cheatee has moved on.
Just a thought. Take YOUR hubby for everything you can, and then start seeing old girl's man.
The worst revenge you can have on her is to let her keep your husband, because, rest assured, he'll do the same thing to her, one day.
2007-02-23 03:43:55
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answered by <3 The Pest <3 6
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If I was in ur position I would tell her husband because it's not right that her husband has no clue that his wife is cheating on him. It's not the fact that she should suffer but he shouldn't have to live with her not knowing what his wife is doin behind his back.
2007-02-23 03:53:35
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answered by bride 2 be in 07 1
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First of all I do am sad that this is going on with you,I hope that you are very strong fnding out that your husband is having an affair,.Adultery is a bit no,no to the eyes of god.I know this because I found out that my husband was having an affair for 2 months and this is before x-mas 2006.My kids was broken up.The wh--re was also married and they met on christian dating site.
Follow your heart and see whats best,and yes the woman's husband need to know also. Those two were having fun while the two of you were being treated like fools. Do your best and get out of that life like me,your husband doesn't deserve you, your love andeven respect................good luck and bless you!!
2007-02-23 03:31:32
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answered by islandgirl06 5
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And what will any of it accomplish? He probably knows she cheated anyway. Just because some people don't react to these things the way you do doesn't mean they don't know it's going on. And how do you KNOW she isn't suffering for her actions...are you in her home 24/7?
Hate to tell you this but in most states now adultery isn't grounds for divorce. Obviously your attourney hasn't been forthcoming with you.
2007-02-23 05:28:07
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answered by Anonymous
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My only question would be why you would want to tell him? If it's with intent to get back at her that is the wrong reason. If it wasn't her, it would have been someone else. Her husband will eventually find out...especially if she is called into court to testify. A friend used to say "give someone enough rope and they hang themselves"...I never fully understood that until I was a bit older. Best of luck to you!
2007-02-23 03:31:36
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answered by Michele D 2
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oh let it be .. i am sure he will find out soon enough and it don't have to be from you . i am very sure you are not the only to know about the affair in your neighbor hood . and he will figure it out when every one is whispering about it behind his back and he will find out what kind of person he is married to . but if you must be hateful then go ahead and tell him . he may not like you to much after you do tell him because there are certain things they kill the messenger about and this is surly one of those
i am sorry that is probably not what you wanted to hear . anyway good luck trying to figure out what to do .
2007-02-23 06:20:52
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answered by <3 4
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Dont expect the results you hope for
Chances are the husband will retaliate against you and/or your husband
Dont count on getting rich from your divorce settlement
But, oh yeah, tell the husband
2007-02-23 04:11:15
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answered by Anonymous
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