should parents be blamed for the way there child end up(im writing a book and would like you views)?

Question

im writing a book and would like poepels views on wether parenst should be bamed such as when a child wont go to school should the adult be fined and if so why is teh child punished for stealing the child has doen the criem not the adult so why punish them

Answer 1

It's basically a misguided attempt by the courts to get the parents to take more responsibility for their children. I'm not saying its right or wrong just that that is why they do it.

I figure if the kid wants to get into trouble bad enough they aren't going to care what the state does to the parent OR what the parent does to them.

My mother battled with the courts over my older sister. My mom way fined several times and they even threatened to send her to jail. There was nothing my mom could do to make my sister stop cutting class and she tried EVERYTHING. Hell, my mom would even take my sister to school and watch her walk in the front doors so she could make SURE my sister went to school. But my sister would just sneak out the back way and the school would LET her. What was my mom supposed to do, sit with my sister in class all day?????

Answer 2

Depends. If a child grows up to be unruly, that's the fault of the parents 99% of the time because they don't discipline the child. However, if you're talking about a child who doesn't do well in school there is only so much a parent can do to motivate a child to do well, so it would be difficult to determine whether the child or the parents should be blamed. As for crimes like stealing, that should be on the child 100% and the child should be sentenced to lengthy community service or juvenile detention -- fines do no good because Mommy and Daddy end up paying them, so the child doesn't learn his/her lesson.

P.S.: I agree with the others here who say your spelling and grammar are atrocious, so you need to work on your writing skills before delving into your book project.

Answer 3

generally i would say yes, good parenting in a loving home that teaches appropriate values and the roles and responsibilities of the child within our society goes a long way to ensuring that children become productive informed adults that know the difference between right and wrong. having said that, there are always exceptions, poor parenting skills are not always the parents fault, there may have been influences in their own lives which did not enable them to learn the lessons they are now required to teach as parents, and some kids just go off the rails despite the efforts of their parents. holding parents responsible for their childrens' actions is a double edged sword, it seems fair enough on the surface but it really doesnt take into account the complexities of family life

Answer 4

I think it depends on the circumstances... For instance we have a friend who's daughter misses the bus a couple times a week. Because she doesn't have a car the child misses school. After the first 10 times I stopped driving her, hoping she would be motivated to get up on time. The mother lets the daughter stay up very late at night (actually morning) and then won't force her to get up. I think in this instance the mom should be held responsible.

On the other hand, there are kids who after the parents have done every thing they can, the kids still rebel. If a parent has exhausted all means of trying to control their kid's behavior and have asked for help, then I think the parents should not be held responsible.

The parents who do nothing to help should be the ones who are considered at fault. The parents who do everything in their power to help should be supported and encouraged.

Answer 5

Absolutely children are what we make them from which language they speak to how the treat other is learned from there parents. However single parent are thrown into a life of poverty that they cannot escape from often abandoned by the families. Left in hopeless situations we need to address this problem. Its to late when the child has grown the circle will never be broken. Get a little help with your spelling and good luck

Answer 6

i think of for the main section the blame is on the parents. parents could visual show unit what their infants are observing on television and action pictures, and what they are listening to for music, and additionally taking part in for video games. in accordance with if the infants are older and at college, you are able to placed some blame on acquaintances, and the reality that the youngsters won't sense blanketed in the event that they don't use the comparable language as their friends. yet, i think of the blame specifically is on the parents and how they % to coach their young infants approximately acceptable language.

Answer 7

This is a question with many answers. In the school situation a parent can drop there kids off everyday and watch them go in but as soon as the parent drives off the kid leaves school. Unfortunatly just because you take your kid and drop them off doesn't mean you can make them stay unless you're going to go to every class with them to make sure they go. In the case of stealing it doesn't matter how hard you try to instill good values and a sense of right and wrong some kids just screw up. I too am sick of everyone blaming parents overall. While yes there are bad parents who abuse and neglect there kids there are also bad kids who no matter what you do or say they just don't care and keep right on doing what they want. I have 2 kids of my own and i do my best to provide them with not only my time but with lessons to take them through life and while i know that i am doing all i can to be here for them I also know that there is a chance that one or both could grow up with a completely different view on life then me and i accept that. But I don't think it would be fair to say that if they decide to be criminals that thats my fault.
I have a brother whom my mom would drive to school everyday drop off at the door and wait for him to go in. He would walk in the front door and out the back and go home.She did the best she could and yet he would still leave everyday. She too was threatened with not only a fine but jail time for him skipping school. Now you explain to me how putting my mother in jail was going to make him go to school. He wasn't being punished and I think thats part of the problem these days. We are so focused and making the parents accountable that we have pretty much forgotten to make the kids themselves accountable so we aren't teaching them anything. Its due in part, in my opinion, to the no child left behind program. Now whether our kids are ready or not we just move them on to the next grade. So if i am having trouble doing my current grade level work and you are moving me on to the next grade without properly teaching me what i need to know then why would i continue to go knowing that i'm not going to understand whats going on therefor im not leaning and teachers today have a bad habit of making our kids feel stupid when they don't know something.
It boils down to we need to make BOTH the children and the parents accountable for the actions of the child. Parents need to be made aware right away that there is a problem instead of waiting till its totally out of control.

Answer 8

Well, firstly, install a spell checker on your pc. Your English here is terrible and your proposed book needs to be perfect.

Secondly, there are no bad kids, but a heck of a lot of bad parents.

Answer 9

well to an extent because they must correct the kid or give them the proper values.....but in some cases the kids behave like angels in front of their parents who have really taught them the good values.............but behind thierback they r mischevious devils......u cant blame them totally

Answer 10

i think they should be, because the have the power to install good behavior when there kids are Little and will listen to them.