how can you catch a cheater?

Question

i have a hunch my husband of 15 years might be haveing an affair. He has been leaving for work an hour early for the past 3 weeksand coming home about 30 minutes past the usual time.He seldom wants to go out with me either.

Answer 1

Has anything other than this changed?
Has he suddenly changed his apperance?
Got a haircut? Wearing cologne? New clothes?
Have you 2 stopped talking? Has become more sexual and given you new tricks after 15 years?

Are you sure YOUR not thinking about having an affair and putting your own guilty feelings on him?
Hunch instead of beating around the bush and tip toe why not come right out with it?

People are as sick as there secrets! Maybe this could be the best thing that ever happened to your relationship! HONEST OPEN COMMUNICATION!

Answer 2

If you can afford to, hire an investigator. If not, you'll have to become the investigator. Borrow or rent a car and just follow him one day. Then again, call him at the job in (how ever many minutes it takes him to get to work) to make sure he is there. Call his job around 5:35 if he normally gets off at 5:30 to see if he is still there. Then again, there may be some deadlines as it has only been 3 weeks. If all of this is inaccurate, just ask him how the relationship is going between the two of you because you feel like he's cheating or something.

Answer 3

my ex husband was a cheater here are the signs i pick up on phone calls late at night and he said it was his mom i ask his she said she has not talking to him. come home late from work leaving early. hang out with others woman or friends and dont ask u to go.smelling like perfoume that u dont have . how about change his password on the computer or cell phone.hire a pi u have been married to him for 15 years u should follow your feelings and go with what your head tell u.when he is late does he bring anything home? does he call u to let u know why he is going to be late from work?i hope he is not cheating but i need more info what makes u think he is cheating. or u can make him pull his pants down and smell him to see if he smells like sex.

Answer 4

Follow him when he leaves in the morning to see where he is going. Or, meet him at his work place at his getting off time all dressed up and tell him you're taking him out to a romantic dinner. His reactions will surely tell you something. Once you get there don't leave him unattended so he can't make any phone calls. Check his phone log list when the cell bill comes in. Plan a getaway weekend for the two of you and see how he responds. Tell him you're going out of town then watch him all weekend. Good Luck

Answer 5

Google: Clues to catch a cheater. You will got alot of returns on that. My hubby had an affair and AFTER I found out, I googled that, and he hit every single clue, only I didnt know it at the time. Or just borrow a friends car, sit outside his work and follow him when he leaves. Check his cell phone, your bill. Theres tons of things to do that wont cost you much money (A PI will cost a ton-1500-2grand). You can research it all online. Just be sure to delete your browsing history so your hubby dont see it. AND DONT confront him unless you have undeniable proof. If he is cheating and you just suggest it, he will only deny it and work harder to cover his tracks. That was my mistake. But he still got caught. Men are a ton more likely to get caught cheating than woman. They get stupid and often forget the lies and stories they told you earlier. If he is, you stay smart and on your toes and you'll catch him.

Answer 6

Well people will tell u that u should just sit down and ask him, but that doesn't work. How many guys are going to admit it? They will just make it harder to catch them, because they will know u are onto them. You need to do your own investigative work. Have a friend with a car that he is not familiar with waiting down the road when he leaves for work. Have her pull up and pick u up and follow him and see why he is leaving early. It is the only way u will know for sure, and it will either put your mind at ease, or validate what u are feeling.

Answer 7

I found a cell phone I did not know he had, called all the numbers, found out he had a 20 year old little blonde at the current time and from he learned he had one prior to her for a couple of years that had just had "his" baby.
It is devestating, dont look until you are ready to deal with it.
Sounds to me like he absolutely is.
Here are some signs I missed:
losing weight and paying attention to his appearance more
new interests and hobbies (he started bowling, golfing and joined a softball league) that he does not invite you to join in on
keeping his vehicle clean
no oral - - - and no intimacy
only wants you from behind
taking up drinking
depression and anger
criticizing you, complaining about the housekeeping, complaining about overspending
not willing to spend time with your family and avoids gatherings
accuses you of cheating
seems or blatantly says he is not interested in God, faith, beliefs or convictions that either you have or you both had together
has some new friends that you never meet or when you meet them they behave strangely
MOST IMPORTANT
As a woman, if you feel it strongly, it is most probably true.
Much love...contact me personally for support
Jen

Answer 8

Get a voice activated tape recorder ($20-$50) and stash it in his car under the dash board. The next time he talks to someone or makes a phone call in the car you'll know what he said and to whom.

Or you can sit outside his work in a rental car and watch him through binoculars. You can tail him (from a distance so he doesn't see you) and watch where he goes.

And once you know for sure that he's cheating, play stupid until you have enough evidence to ruin him in divorce court.

Answer 9

Check his cell phone and see if there are any numbers you don't recognize.
Also, depending on when his car was made, you can get a computer that tells you where he's been.
Say it takes a half hour to get to work. After a half hour to forty-five minutes, call there and ask to speak to him.

Answer 10

Well you can hire a PI or get a friends car and follow him yourself.

If you suspect it - you might be right - I would have an attorney set up in advance for your protection!