I just found out this year that I have a daughter who is 5 years old. Her mother wants me to pay child support but never see her. I want to see my daughter. I want to be apart of her life. I know in my state (nebraska) The statute has already past but my lawyer said that she made fraudulent efforts to hide the baby from. She also never marked a fathers name on the birth certificate. Am I doing the right thing or am I going to hurt this little girl. The mother is single. I however am married and have a 5 year old step son. She says I am a bad person but not once in my life have I ever been arrested for anything. I just don't want to hurt this girl or my family in any way. Does it mean anything that she never put a father on the birth certifiacate?
thanks
2007-02-23 02:53:25 · 12 answers · asked by sad and confused 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
First - get a good lawyer to help. Then get a paternity test to make sure the child is yours. If it is yours, then PAY. With that said, you should have rights to see, visit, and be involved. You fooled around, now take responsibility for your actions.
2007-02-23 03:03:52 · answer #1 · answered by maddojo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what the law says about this, but to me the law isn't necessarily 'right.' IMO the 'right' thing is for you to pay child support AND you should be a part of your daughter's life. Unfortunately for you, the woman has probably already planted the 'nasty father' seed in the little girl's head. That can be overcome with time, though. If you are not a part of her life, I am afraid that she will likely grow up to be a man-hater and be just like her mother. We don't need more of those in this world! Good luck!
2007-02-23 03:03:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can make a commitment to this child and be a father to her then by all means pursue your rights as a father. My father and mother divorced when I was 11 years old and he just forgot about me. It has been a major void in my life and I'm now 48 and still don't understand how a parent can let go of their child. I would have given anything to have had my father a part of my life. God never meant for children to live without both of their parents. You may have to fight for your rights but there are organizations now that will assist fathers wanting to be a part of their child's life. God bless you.
2007-02-23 03:09:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if it is determined that the child is yours, I think the more important than the money or the legal status, you should make an attempt to know the child. She would probably need some male figure more than she needs the money. So with that said, tell the woman that it is a ridiculous request to demand child support yet deny you the right as a father to love your child.
2007-02-23 03:06:46 · answer #4 · answered by jameson_liang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am just going to give you a perspective - not an answer on this one.
My father is the King of Absentee Father's. He rarely saw us as children, never sent birthday cards, christmas gifts etc. Now that I am older he has seen two of his Grandchildren a handful of times, and two of them never.
Guess - what as a kid I was heartbroken that my father didn't care enough to be with me, as an adult I hate the man. The choice you make now for your little girl will have an impact on the rest of her life. Do you want her to go through her entire life thinking that her Daddy didn't love her enough to be with her?
2007-02-23 03:19:54 · answer #5 · answered by Susie D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can take her to court, get a DNA test and get put on her birth certificate. If you establish paternity, they can and will inforce child support. They will also make her let you see the child and the courts will decide it. Try to settle it with the mom if possible, but the courts need to be involved.
2007-02-23 03:03:49 · answer #6 · answered by KATHY A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-18 09:22:13 · answer #7 · answered by schwarm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can take this to court. You don't have to pay if you are not involved in the child's life. If you want to, you need to go to court to get at least partial custody and make payments. And, it is the right thing to do if you want to be part of your little girl's life.
2007-02-23 02:57:22 · answer #8 · answered by Groovy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop. Before you do ANYTHING else - get a lawyer who specializes in family law. The first thing to do after that is to get a DNA test to establish paternity.
Don't jump to any conclusions until paternity is established.
2007-02-23 03:00:20 · answer #9 · answered by Mike J 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you are willing to be a permanant father figure, not a temporary entry into her life, I think it is great you want to be the father to her! Just make sure it is what you want to do, and that you are willing to be there!
2007-02-23 02:58:06 · answer #10 · answered by country_girl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋