Dont get me wrong i love my best friend to peaces but at the moment she seems to be actin stupid...
Shes been with her boyfriend for 3 years and shes admited to me that the only reason she stays with him is because she cant afford not to!!!
She doesnt love him and she makes is sssoooo obviouce to everyone around her and even to him, but he doesnt seem to see it..
Am just affraid that she goin to make her self so deprested n sad because of this.. Dont get me wrong,hes a lovely lad and he does love her to bits but she just sees him as a friend!!!
She hasnt cheated on him witch is good but i dont understand how someone could be with someone that they dont even love.... Will she ever get the corage to stand on her own to feet??????
2007-02-23 02:52:53 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
if he doesn't realize that maybe he is happy himself
leave it to it then
2007-02-23 03:06:08 · answer #1 · answered by ladysorrow 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see your worried for your friend and her partner but what ever you say or do will only fall on deaf ears as shes made her point in saying , she cant afford to be living alone so that could be half the rent and bills? But i do feel more sorry for the guy as he is being used and loves her to do nothing about it himself, he may rather be treated like he is than not even be with her, his life is being wasted in my eyes. But he knows the score and wants to be with her end of. My advise would be to tell her shes not getting any younger to live like she is, does she ever want to settle down with a man that she loves, if she will listen?????. To use a man to for her own selfish needs is bad. Tell her to leave the poor man go , he will be upset but only his pay packet she really wants. A dog gets better treated than him poor man he will survive, it will take him time , I hope HE meets a woman who will love him for him and not his wallet.
2007-02-23 13:30:21 · answer #2 · answered by bonniebella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the main reason why that she is staying with him is because she doesn't want to be alone and she knows that he'll always be there. Something serious is going on with your best friend regarding self-esteem and self-worth. Your friend honestly thinks that she is not the prize and she doesn't see that. Talk to your friend and find out what is really going on. She should realize that her boyfriend loves her regardless, and she should be one lucky lady. Her boyfriend does not disrespect her, he doesn't call her out of her name, and he doesn't physically and verbally abuse her. She should be honest with herself when it comes to situations like that. Continue to be there for her, but let her learn the hard way. That is the only way that she will learn. I hope my advice helps you. Good luck.
2007-02-23 11:04:51 · answer #3 · answered by Lady S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably some woman never get that courage! You should sit down and tell her how you feel it may cause a fight but you will feel better knowing it was discussed and tha poor guy needs to move on 3 years is a long time to be with one person!
2007-02-23 10:57:55 · answer #4 · answered by Brittany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might not. But other than being honest with her there's nothing you can do. When it comes to other people's relationships, even your best friends... you have to stay out of it as much as possible. You can still be there for her and listen to her until you're sick of hearing it. Bottom line is that she will change her life when she's tired of being unhappy. After all, she is the only one who can.
2007-02-23 11:05:12 · answer #5 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could be already used to having him around and being with her. And she might be afraid if he leaves her, she will be alone. Some girls prefer to have a companion instead of having no one at all. She will probably needs lots of your friendship, encouragement and assurance in order to get out of the situation. You have to remember not every is born to be strong, sometimes, people needs lot of help to get a courage.
2007-02-23 11:04:08 · answer #6 · answered by chardonnayormerlot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I think you should try and advice her about the consequencies of what she is doing. Tell her that it is not good and she will end up not being happy if she continues like that. So if it happens that the boy wants to marry her now, what's she going to do. She should try and change in other to be a good girl
2007-02-23 11:13:18 · answer #7 · answered by Goldah N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does that mean because she cant afford not to what are they living together or something if they are maby it means she can't afford to live on her own.She should find a way to tell him she does not love him with hurting him it will be good for them both and if its true about her can't affording her own place he could help her til she can stand on her own.
2007-02-23 11:02:40 · answer #8 · answered by Demetra P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that the couple in question are both happy ,i say leave well a lone
2007-02-23 11:03:24 · answer #9 · answered by Mick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybie she's lying because she thinks you don't like him?
2007-02-23 12:14:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋