I mean I know forgiving yourself is important but can you
you just verbalize how and why (intellectualy ) this is done ?
2007-02-23 02:30:36 · 3 answers · asked by rgarlik 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You need to forgive yourself in order to let go of guilt. Guilt should be a transitory state to help you clarify your actions but staying at the guilt level is just going to keep you feeling bad about yourself. You're going to keep needing to punish yourself instead of accepting your mistakes and learning enough from them to not repeat them. It's actually a way to not accept responsibility for your mistakes. Since guilt is an emotion and not a thought, intellectualizing your guilt is not really going to help you get over it. Your head may understand it but your heart will continue to hold on to it. in other words, I'm afraid you're going have to let yourself feel it in order to really forgive yourself.
2007-02-23 02:41:59 · answer #1 · answered by moose 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Guilt is crippling. If I live to be in my eighties I really wouldnt want to rehash a lot of the mistakes I've made. Besides, a lot of the mistakes I've made I made unknowingly and with out thinking about it, why shouldnt I give myself a break. I am thirty right now and I have totally written off my childhood and even my twenties...I have forgiven myself and others that have hurt me. I want to move on with a clear conscience and a clean slate.
Life is way to short for regret.
2007-02-23 10:44:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You forgive yourself by taking responsibility for your actions and living with the consequences. You accept that you might not be the "good" person you think you are.
If you don't, you will feel guilty for the rest of your life ; and feeling guilty is just a way of not having to face the truth about yourself.
2007-02-23 10:45:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋