Hi!i have a friend(girl)who is very sweet but she is little bit dull in her studies.She is inteeligent but she not using her intelligence in a right way.she takes all imp matters easily but takes unwanted things seriously as she is little bit fair & looks nice which i don't like.i feel being in her company i too may become like her & go down in my studies taking unwanted things in to my head.I'm right or wrong?Should i live her company?
2007-02-23 02:11:26 · 28 answers · asked by Monu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
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2007-03-01 22:15:52 · answer #1 · answered by xxsanxx 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to look inside yourself and learn about what true friendships are made up of. If you want to be surrounded by people who are intelligent and ugly then you have serious self esteem issues. Ask yourself why you have a need to feel superior? Then take a good look at this young lady and appreciate her for who she really is. She might not be dull in someone else's eyes. If she is a really good friend of yours you will accept her for who and what she really is. The other thing is what seems unimportant to you must mean the world to here. After all wasn't Mother Theresa a great person - she took unwanted people to her heart and look at how revered she still is.
2007-03-01 04:55:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
In my opinion, I think if this is a good person and means well overall that you should consider limiting your visit with this person, but not totally erase her from your life.. You are right about the fact that:
** If a person a a very serious person, then you become a very serious person too.
** If you hang out with cons, then you become a con**
** If you hang out with people who are drinkers, then you become a drinker** and so on
I am a very positive person, and I have this friend of 33 years, she gets severe mood swings, I am still there for her as I know she is overall a good person and means well, but I limit my companionship to a certain degree with comfort.. I will wish you the best no matter what you decide..
2007-03-02 09:54:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally speaking, its always best to surround yourself with people who will help you achieve your goals . . . people who encourage you to do well and who have a positive influence in your life.
If this friend is holding you back from being where you want to be, then yes, you may want to start cutting back on the time you spend with her.
On the other hand, if you think that you're strong enough to face your daily challenges while maintaining a friendship with someone who doesn't share your same aptitude for academics and studies, then you may serve as an example or encouragement to this friend.
In either case, your decision should really be based on what's best for you. Everyone makes their decisions and will eventually have to face the consequences.
2007-02-23 10:52:15 · answer #4 · answered by DaveJoseph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are very judge mental towards this person. If you are feeling this way then you should just end the friendship between the two of you instead of being two faced. You have problems just like she has. A friend is suppose to be there for the other one. If you don't feel that your friendship to her is a true friendship then you should move on. I think that it is terrible for a person to put on a front and act like they consider you as a friend when they really don't.
2007-03-02 09:48:26 · answer #5 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is your friend you have the right to tell her what you don't like in her and thats your duty as well.If your age demands concentration on studies than it should be,time once lost could never be gained again.try to correct her,if she doesn't change make her clear your priorities and concentrate on your studies rather thinking of anything else.Don't take harsh decision just do what you think is right and leave rest on time.
2007-02-27 06:25:42 · answer #6 · answered by Dingy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She dosn't need a friend who talks about her as you are doing. By the way you say she is a little bit dull in her studies, You yourself need to study up on your english and grammar. I had to read your question three times to try and understand what you were saying.
2007-03-03 07:10:49 · answer #7 · answered by holly 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if u really think that this friend could be a bad influence on you then you should spend less time with her or at least try your best not to be like her.you can only be yourself and thats the way your friend is,you shouldnt stop being friends just because you are worried that her ways might rub off on you.
2007-02-23 10:16:59 · answer #8 · answered by Tati 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she is your friend then it shouldn't matter to you that she is a little dull in her studies. You two must be two peas in a pod because you can not spell yourself. Maybe the two of you should study together a little more.
2007-02-23 10:17:47 · answer #9 · answered by unknown2u 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not a true friend! You are looking for wrong things in a friend. A real friend doesn't care whether he/she is fair/nice to look at, he/she doesn't see whether his/her friend is intelligent or not. If your friend is weak in studies, it's your duty to make her understand how important studies are. Try it.
2007-03-01 06:08:41 · answer #10 · answered by nima man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Evidentally you are not a true friend if you speak of her this way.A true friend stands by you no matter what they look like,what there intelligence is etc.Mabe shed be better off with out you..
2007-03-03 09:17:27 · answer #11 · answered by annie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋