it's driving me crazy, how do i get it out of my head?
2007-02-23 02:11:21 · 31 answers · asked by juz me, deal with it 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i know i'm too young and i don't want to have sex, but i can't get it out of my thoughts. and i have hobbies, yeah, not working!!!
2007-02-23 02:18:36 · update #1
It's normal to be thinking of these things, but you should also try to elevate your thoughts to 'what will it take for me to have sex with someone?' You've thought about the sex part, which is fine--but before you ACT think about the other parts that go with the sex.
Is it going to be a husband, a long time boyfriend, some guy on the street. Start to work on a standard for you to reach in your head. What is going to be your standard, and how are you going to wait to find someone who meets that standard. How much emotional attachment, financial support, mental reservations, love, committment, etc are you going to require before you have sex.
Take it to the next level mentally before even thinking of doing something physically...
2007-02-23 02:18:39 · answer #1 · answered by apleyden 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its only normal, and you should read about all there is to know about sex and the responsibilities that you will have if you decide to become sexually active.
I am in my mid 20's and I lost my virginity when I was 18, but I still remember that I had RAGING hormones at your age and the best this that helped me was to RESEARCH, everything there is to know about it.
I would recommend talking to your mother, if you don't think she'll be open minded or you feel uncomfortable...maybe an aunt, older sister or an older cousin...by older I mean at least in there 21+.
Think about all the RISKS there are... read about all the STD's out there.
Read about the types of Birth control... its expensive if you don't have health insurance...and moreover, think about getting pregnant at 15!
Also, think about this...Once its gone its gone...you can't become a virgin ever again, so make sure your completely ready...MIND, body and SOUL.
Its not wrong that you think about these things...completely normal...but also don't just think about the surface issue "sex" but really REALLY think about all the other things that come with it: Risks of an STD, Pregnancy, Birth Control, Annual Pap Smears...the list goes on and on...and although all these things are NOT bad things...for a 15 year old...its A Whole LOT TO HANDLE!
You may even get turned off by the idea all together, which is what helped me wait all this time and my 17 year old sister as well, we talk about things all the time.
I am now married, no I didn't wait 'till I was married...but I waited until I could be responsible to handle all the consequences.
Hope this helps...GOOD LUCK!
2007-02-23 02:36:02 · answer #2 · answered by MissVero 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is obviously completely natural.
Hormones are working correctly I see. :)
Look, try to find something that breaks the pattern of thinking. When you think about it. Do something else. Make sure it is the same thing. This is called a pattern interrupt. Soon your mind will be focusing on the interrupt more than the thought in your head.
I assume you don't want to act on your feelings as you are a virgin - just stay focused on why you want to stay that way and you will be fine.
2007-02-23 02:18:57 · answer #3 · answered by fogdog7272 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're okay! Thinking about sex in your teens is totally normal and healthy. It's good that you said that you won't have sex, but, trust me; when I was 15, I thought about sex all the time. It's normal.
2007-02-24 08:49:46 · answer #4 · answered by *~*RaChAel*~* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound about right especially if you are a virgin. i honestly don't know a way to get it out of your head, but you do not need to have sex just because it is on your mind all the time.i wish i could give you actual advise but i don't know what to tell you, except don't let your thoughts rule you. good luck
2007-02-23 02:31:41 · answer #5 · answered by award 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is natural and even adults think about sex a lot.
Our hormons (especially yours as you are growing and altering) and daily lives will bring it up. Everywhere we turn, sex is labeled on things: music, tv. movies, and even chit chats with friends.
I would sugguest to just calmly focus your attention on other things and don't make a deal out of it. It is natural and you just have to learn how to not get fusturated with it.
2007-02-23 05:00:45 · answer #6 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait until you are 18 years old. Right now, sex should not be an issue. You are just way to young.
2007-02-23 02:15:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, you could have sex. If you don't want to do that, you could distract yourself with other things, like going out with friends and such. Maybe even talking with friends about it might help, too.
2007-02-23 02:17:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a typical teenager thats all. Have sex in you like the person and do it wisely. With protection.
2007-02-23 06:24:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing is wrong with thinking about sex but what you need to do is find a hobby and do more with your time. if your busy it will be hard to think about sex.
2007-02-23 02:17:31 · answer #10 · answered by ladi_elmo09 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋