opinions please on this scenario?

Question

So my girlfriend and I were out to dinner the other night. I wasn't all there, I had alot on my mind. She asked what i was thinking about. I said nothing i wanted to talk about and continued throught dinner. She asked again, i said, none of your business, personal stuff. Then the next she texts me all pissed off, doesn't want to talk to me. I told her i was sorry, i had an off night and i had alot on my mind, things she didn't need to worry about. So she said goodbye and didnt talk to me until the day after that.

Do I have a right to see her as over-reacting? I mean she is in a lot of aspects of my life, can i not have a personal thought anymore? Wanted to know your take on this situation.

Answer 1

Umm... Overreacting, selfish and good grief...

Seriously, she doesn't understand men that well. All men, just like women get in funks. Not talkative, don't want to be touched, whatever. The point is that it doesn't mean that you care about her any less. Hopefully she'll realize one day that if you want her to know something, you'll tell her...and throwing a hissy fit isn't going to make you want to open up to her.

My guess is that what she is feeling that you don't care enough to let her in your life to tell her everything you're thinking because my guess is that she would tell you.

She'll get over it. My suggestion is that if it happens again, tell her you're thinking about how tired you are and want to go to sleep. Its an easy answer that will cover whatever it is that you don't feel like talking about. But throw her a bone every once in a while. Girls like to feel needed too.

Answer 2

You could probably have been more tactful. She obviously sees this as you shutting her out, and that can hurt. Especially if she cares enough to want to know what's troubling you. If you really care for this woman, you'll have to earn her forgiveness. I know it sounds extreme, but you must decide if she's worth it. It's always wise to try to look at any conflict from her perspective. If you can do that, you'll have a good shot at smoothing things over.