2007-02-23 02:02:09 · 40 answers · asked by cindy m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to start setting some money aside for your future. You will need money to start anew. Consult with a divorce lawyer and tell him/her the situation. Ask what your best course of action is. Make some plans for leaving...be prepared. From here on out, look our for your best interests and those of your children, assuming you have some. He doesn't need to know your intentions. Distance yourself from him emotionally. It will never work out. He isn't even trying. Good luck.
2007-02-23 02:30:29 · answer #1 · answered by delanabobana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
where is your pride? Why are you allowing how your husband is behaving to determine your self worth. If he wont leave his girlfriend alone, then doesnt that tell you somthing? Why are you downgrading yourself like this. You are an important person in your own right and if you think anything differently then your husbands cheating ways have made you feel like you are a second rate citizen. He is still seeing his girlfriend because he knows you wont leave him. He knows you have no self esteem, therefore he can treat you anyway he likes....why? simply because you have shown him how to cheat and still have a loving wife waiting for him. Change your reliability and maybe you will see a change in him.
2007-02-23 02:20:01 · answer #2 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, why in the world does your husband have a girlfriend, and second of all he married YOU. If he still feels the need to see other women there is no point of you being married to him. Everything he does with his "girlfriend" he should be able to do with you. If he continues after you tell him how you feel, threaten him with divorce or sumthin. some guys get married cause its the right thing to do, and not because there ready. he may not be mentally ready to handle one women his whole life. A lot of men are just like him and it also ends with a women with a broken heart.
2007-02-23 02:09:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband won't stop seeing the girlfriend, especially if you confronted him... then he's made his choice - let her have the bum. He is no good, he is a liar, cheat, and will probably never be a good husband. Give it time, eventually he will cheat on her too. Kick him out. You WILL find someone who will love and cherish you. Besides, I'd rather be single and content then be miserable in a hurtful marriage.
2007-02-23 02:37:13 · answer #4 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so surprised how many people said leave or get divorced. Very easy to say...Too complicated. Start with something easier like conversation. Men are doing these things because they never think about conclusions. They live in present. Try to explain him what will happen if he won't stop. Remind him why he married you and not his ex...
Good luck
2007-02-23 04:12:36 · answer #5 · answered by sasenka82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, stop having unprotected sex with him. Second, if you have children, do what's in the best interest of your children.
Now is not the time to get all emotional about it. Cause if it keeps going this way, there will be plenty of time for drama down the road. Right now, just be practical and make sensible choices.
2007-02-23 02:07:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your husband is wealthy and you have it made financially I'd find my own lover. Travel, live your own life at his expense. But get pictures and proof that he has a girlfriend in case he decides on a divorce when he gets treated like he's treating you.
2007-02-23 03:56:57 · answer #7 · answered by Cyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first get a copy of all his financial documents and stash it away for safe keeping, if there are kids involved this may come in handy. anyways if your husband wont stop seeing his girlfriend that is disrespectful, maybe you should leave him and see how he likes it or better get a boyfriend and see how he likes it.
2007-02-23 02:07:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I've stated this in another answer, but it applies here as well...people will treat you as you allow them to. If you continue to tolerate this disrespect, it will continue...pure and simple. What do you want for yourself? And why do you feel you deserve to be treated this way? It's your own lack of self confidence and low self esteem which allows you to remain in this type of situation. Look inside of yourself and see what has contributed to this...then decide what you're going to do about it.
2007-02-23 02:18:16 · answer #9 · answered by Michele D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. Don't spend the rest of your life sharing your husband.
2007-02-23 02:07:14 · answer #10 · answered by navy wife 1996 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋