My husband of 3 years (together for 8) has been cheating on me with a pig he met on myspace. He carried on an 9 month affair and bought her things with my money. I have been very sick for years and he used that as an excuse. Is it pathetic that I would take him back if he just begged? How sad am I? How could I forgive him? Would anyone take him back?
2007-02-23 01:55:54 · 28 answers · asked by lvacca 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get rid of his @ss! You don't need someone who doesn't respect you enough to not sleep around while your f'in sick!
2007-02-23 01:59:14 · answer #1 · answered by **Red** 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That's pretty messed up of him to cheat while you were sick, and that was a pathetic excuse. I do understand that you may want to take him back as well. Ppl forget the vows they make when they get married, " for better or worse, and till death". I think anything in a marriage can be worked out if the couple really loves each other and wants to make it work. I've never been married, so my opinion and thoughts may not count, but I guess I'm a hopeless romantic. You should talk to him and see if he's really sorry for what he did, and try marriage counseling. He also needs to understand that you are going to need time to heal, and he has a lot of a$$ kissing to do.
2007-02-23 10:20:26 · answer #2 · answered by Lucky13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not uncommon for women to do that. Its your pride that hurts the most and its still hurting. But when ur pride is hurt, its the worst kind, and when u have a chance to repair it, and see him beg, u feel like its being fixed for some reason and instead of losing, u feel as if u have won.
Dont be ashamed that u did it. Its your life. The question u have to ask yourself is if you can truly put this behind you and move forward from here on. If u can do that, then why not give it another shot.
If u cant, then u may as well just tell him to go now.
You sound as though your pride has gotten repaired to some degree but u r still having doubts and reservations if u have done the right thing?
Only u know if u can do this or not. People can change. U have to determine if he has learned that u r who he truly wants.
Good luck to u.
2007-02-23 10:13:13 · answer #3 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends really on how much you love him... I wouldn't take him back, he's done something that's just plain wrong. If your heart says to keep him, keep him. If you keep coming back to the subject of divorce or something of that matter, do it. It's all up to you. If he starts to beg and you want to take him back, it wouldn't be pathetic as long as it was your decision, and you think it's right. If he uses you being very sick for years as an excuse, I find THAT pathetic. He should be helping you, not cheating on you. I have no idea how you could forgive him, and if I did have an idea, I wouldn't tell you.. It might turn out wrong. Once again, it's just all up to you.
2007-02-23 10:03:29 · answer #4 · answered by ^__^ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have low self-esteem. You know all the details and still want him in your life? He cheated on you when you were most vulnerable, while you were sick. He has not honored you, or your wedding vows. It is within your right to forgive him, but he doesn't sound remorseful. It's a very sad thing. I would forgive him but forgiveness does not mean that you have to take him back.
2007-02-23 10:03:37 · answer #5 · answered by questiongirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't call it pathetic, but it would certainly be excusing his behavior and inviting trouble.
I don't think a person like that can be trusted if he was stealing your money to support a mistress and then has the nerve to blame you for his cheating.
I wouldn't take him back, it'd be better off being alone than having to deal with the trauma and drama of a cheating husband and a money-pit homewrecker.
2007-02-23 10:01:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has broken the trust that you gave him. Once that trust is broken, it is very,very hard to earn it back. I say earn, b/c that is what needs to be done..he needs to earn your trust back. If you decide that you want him in your life, then you both need to be prepared to go to some sort of trouble first. You will still wonder what he is doing behind your back and he will wonder why you are always so curious as to what he is doing. It can get better...but it takes a lot of work and time. I think that if you truly love this man and he loves you,then you and he both need to do what it takes to make it work. You need to follow your heart....only you know what will work best for you....no one else can really answer that for you. we can suggest and give advice, but in the long run, it's what is in your heart that counts.
2007-02-23 10:16:48 · answer #7 · answered by Latino Heat 4ever 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not pathetic necessarily, but I think you are choosing to stay with him for the wrong reasons. Marriage is in sickness and health. He can blame his straying on whatever he wants, but he betrayed you, your marriage, and your trust. Why would you want to be with someone like that? It's only a matter of time before he does it again. You did nothing wrong by being ill. He broke his vows and is making excuses for his behavior placing the blame on you!! How wrong is that?
2007-02-23 10:33:52 · answer #8 · answered by delanabobana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
F*#k NO!!! Leave his sorry A*S!! I don't care what his lame excuse was. Once a cheater, always a cheater. And even if that statement doesn't turn out to be true, you will be wondering for the rest of ur days where he is when he says he's working late, or stays out all night, doesn't answer his phone...ect. Trust me it's not worth the worry you will have wondering
2007-02-23 10:01:38 · answer #9 · answered by kizdrop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pathetic is a strong word. After all that is your husband and you should fight for him and not let some cyberho pig take him without a fight.
2007-02-23 10:00:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No sweetie, don't fall for that bull crap. Don't take him back, he is a loser for even blaming it on your illness. Just like a real jerk to get in trouble and blame it on someone else. You are better than that and deserve better. Leave him and move on. Best of luck.
2007-02-23 10:25:51 · answer #11 · answered by Amanda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋