2007-02-23 01:48:08 · 53 answers · asked by GLENN P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Respect her boundaries.
2007-02-23 01:50:50 · answer #1 · answered by farleyjackmaster 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
if u r in a committed relationship and for a long time than its cool if not, dont ask even ask. u need to constantly tell her that u love her body and it looks great from different angles :) say that u have a fantasy about HER and that stuff u wanna do and u only wanna do it with her. she will understand that if she wants to keep her man she will have do like doing everything :) make it a game: one thing she likes u MUST do and the other way round so shell try to do something u wont like probably but if u want her to do it u must too. make sure she feels sexy and beautiful with u and that she hot and sexy. watch an erotica together that might motivate her to get dirty, and u can just say wow we should do that do u mind?
2007-02-25 03:11:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't, so don't force the issue - at all - or she will simply shut down altogether.
If she is not comfortable with stuff, very gently try to find out why; and while you are being gentle, find out what she DOES like. Never, ever, push your sexual preferences on someone else. Suggesting it is one thing; but becoming insistent about it is another. If there is stuff she doesn't want to do, let it be.
2007-02-23 03:12:25 · answer #3 · answered by marie m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you willing to do things that will make you uncomfortable (she has a strap on and does you for example)? Now maybe you can get a better idea how she feels. You can not make people do things that are uncomfortable, all you can do is have an open and honest dialog.
The positions are not as important as the feelings and want to satisfy the other.
Good luck.
2007-02-23 02:10:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't persuade her. If she's not comfortable then you shouldn't force her. Everyone has a right to say no if they don't like something. My partner would never force me to do anything in bed i wasn't comfortable with because he loves and respects me. You could try talking to her and see how she feels afterwards but don't push it.
2007-02-23 02:27:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever told her this? Have you asked her to do certain things that you want? She will not even know this unless you tell her. Or have you asked her and she has said no??!! I would think any woman would want to please her man sexually. Why not ask her if you haven't or try to bring it up somehow in conversation and then mention how you'd love that. Maybe say, "You wouldn't believe what this guy at work told me his wife does". And then say something like, "I'd like to try that sometime". This will get your idea on how she feels about it. Maybe she wants to, but is too embarrassed. Open the lines of communication. It will do wonders. Try a movie that has what you want to do on it, and then say, "Let's try that".
2007-02-23 02:00:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you want to spice things up in the bedroom and that you want things to be a bit more dirtier, and that you know that she is not comfortable with it. Discuss with her what she might feel comfortable doing that you will be satisfied with from there, you can both work out a compromise that both of you will be happy with.
2007-02-23 01:57:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you make an issue of it she will feel a failure to you in bed. you need to approach this carefully. Have you asked her what you would like to try doing? If she slaps your face you will know it's a no go area.
Bottom line is if she has said no or that she isn't comfortable with it then I cant see anyway forward.
2007-02-23 02:16:08 · answer #8 · answered by laplandfan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. Tell her why you want to do the things you're interested in. Reasure her that you're still attracted to her even if she doesn't do them but explain that you think it would be pleasurable and fun for both of you. Also ask her what she'd be interested in and give it a shot.
2007-02-23 13:07:25 · answer #9 · answered by sebastian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is sex about what you want? or about pleasing her?
If you can prove to her that your only goal is to pleasure her, in whatever way she wants, with whatever intensity she wants... then she will start having that same goal for you. Eventually selflessness comes back and has it's own rewards, she may do what you want purely because she just wants to make you happy... but, you have to prove yourself first.
2007-02-23 01:57:17 · answer #10 · answered by yesterdaylair 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person has to get used to things that are different. Usually that needs to be done very slowly. They have to realize, one, that it's not that unusual (which takes the time), and two, that it's something they will enjoy too.
2007-02-23 01:52:00 · answer #11 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋