My boyfriend, Eddie, is in jail, Concord State in NH.....and i lvoe him dearly and would marry him in a heartbeat...really....but everyone thinks that it is wrong....so im asking for their sake...is it wrong?
I am in love with this man..
2007-02-23 01:45:05 · 13 answers · asked by Annie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He is in til March of 2008 and max out date of March 2009 for two counts of burglary and one probation violation...hes a really good, kind and loving kid and he loves me alot.....
2007-02-23 02:10:37 · update #1
I can empathize with you. Everyone will most likely tell you to move on and forget him, that he's a loser. But, I know for a fact, that everyone in jail or prison are losers. I waited 7 years for my true love after being with him for a year. I tried other relationships, but they just weren't right. He didn't commit any violent crimes, but he had a record with the law since he was 12. He had a lot of baggage from his childhood, and through the help of me and a psychologist, he has dealt with the issues of the past, and has moved on to the future. I have never before in any relationship been loved and treated with such respect as he gives me. However, I do not think that every criminal is as lucky...sometimes they never learn and keep repeating the same mistakes over and over. Had he done this, I would not be with him. They have to really work hard at having society accept them and they have to really want to go straight, and live a decent, civilized life. It's hard in a judicial system that basically sets you up for failure if you don't the $$$ to hire a good lawyer. Once you are in the system, it can be a never ending circle....of violations, fines, and jail. Hopefully, your boyfriend isn't a repeat offender, and has learned whatever he has done is not accepted in society, and he can lead a decent life when he gets out. Best of wishes...
2007-02-23 02:00:24 · answer #1 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation with you. He acatully commited a murder in his young age. Never told until a few months we were together. He is even not in the same city. One day when he told me, I accepted him and he said he woll never do it or anything of that sort. I trusted him. Whn he came back... not even 2 months, he started with drugs. I dumped him. I never regretted has this kinda guys will never change. There some who really do but you must be really sure he doesnt do it and he really loves you. It will be a risk you are taking so you have to think 100% before you decide and dont think about it after you have decided.
2007-02-23 01:51:39 · answer #2 · answered by Veronica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This depends on what he is in prison for in first place has he done something really bad and when he gets out will he re-offend sorry but personally think you need to get a reality check move on while you can for your own sake and i hope you can meet someone worth loving you sound like a nice lady good luck sorry.
2007-02-23 01:53:47 · answer #3 · answered by clare w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love him...you be in there visiting as much as you can and gathering as much money as you can to get him out! You will be there to give a big hug and kiss when hes getting out! You wait for your man.... jail cannot come between love! Dont listen to those stupid people that say its wrong! They're just not in love and dont know! So do what you want and be your own person.
2007-02-23 01:51:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT DEPENDS ON THE SITUATION THAT IN JAIL FOR. I CAN'T SAY TO STAND BY OR LEAVE HIM BECAUSE, IF MY BABY WENT TO JAIL I WOULD BE THERE TO THE END. NO MATTER WHAT HAPPEN BECAUSE THAT HOW MUCH LOVE I HAVE FOR HIM. AFTER 13 YEARS OF THE SAME PERSON, I'M THERE. SO THE ONLY THING I CAN SAY TO YOU IS TO FOLLOW YOUR HEART AND DO WHATS RIGHT FOR YOU. BUT, JUST DON'T LET OTHER PEOPLE CHANGE YOUR MIND BECAUSE OF WHAT THEY THINK YOU SHOULD DO.
2007-02-23 02:01:58 · answer #5 · answered by tank1show 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am a man but I know what you are going through. Who cares what others think. You are the one that will be with him for your life, not the others that say it is wrong. Do what your heart tells you to do. If your heart tells you marry him then do that.
2007-02-23 01:49:39 · answer #6 · answered by bikerjosh91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is great, but to spend part of your life with a loser is such a waste.That is until you finely figure it out. Grow up and do whats right. You really know, don't you. Life is only once, and so much more.
2007-02-23 02:02:31 · answer #7 · answered by johnny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live for yourself and don't worry about other peoples opinion. You are the only one livingyour life. I you made a commitment to him and you know that the love you have for eachother is strong and stable then go with your heart.
i would do it for my man.
2007-02-23 02:02:14 · answer #8 · answered by destiney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well baby girl I'll let you know something that i learn, dont worry about what people say, dont live for the people live for you. And follow your heart, and if that what he want go head for it. What could be the biggest mistake, remember you learn from your mistakes. And if you dont try what you want you would never know what would happen..
2007-02-23 01:50:50 · answer #9 · answered by yanelyr18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't learned to be better than he was, (assuming he did the crime) then lose him. Why invite trouble into your life?
If he has turned around, and you can find proof of that, hang onto him.
Consider what you want your life to be like, and ask yourself if there's a place with him in it.
2007-02-23 01:51:40 · answer #10 · answered by Jed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋