Is there anything i can do or is it just his age?
2007-02-23 01:26:25 · 27 answers · asked by Gimps Mind 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
F**king punch your Grandad full on in the face the old t**t! I f**king hate old people!
2007-02-25 19:46:24 · answer #1 · answered by G P 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would suggest you talk to your Grandad in a very quiet and respectful way. Tell him that you were embarrassed by his comments to your friend. That while you disagree with his feelings about Chinese, you respect his right to believe whatever he wants, but request that he treats your friends with the same respect you would treat his friends.
2007-02-23 01:37:16 · answer #2 · answered by kathy_is_a_nurse 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry words can only harm with our permission. Hopefully your friend is understanding. Gently explain to your Granddad that his comments were inappropriate and that you know that he wouldn't deliberately try to make anyone feel uncomfortable. You may not need to do anything more than warn people that at times he is not as sharp as others. I think its good to focus on all those things that love about your grandfather and really I think you'll find that love will do its job.
2007-02-23 01:39:36 · answer #3 · answered by ohojungo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's just his age. I was shocked to hear some of my older relatives make similar remarks, but I think you have to take into account the culture in which they grew up. Things are different now.
2007-02-23 01:35:53 · answer #4 · answered by murnip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was you I'd have a quiet, gentle word with your grandad and tell him how upset you are and ask him not to make these comments. Racism is not to be tolerated no matter what his age is
2007-02-23 03:11:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I stopped to talk to a neighbor at the mall the other day.
I saw him in a check out line and stopped to say hi because his daughter told me he had been ill. He started to tell me all about his ailments like older people often do. He started complaining about his doctors. He said " One of them came in and he had a skinny Nigg-- with him".
We were standing in a crowd of people and I wanted to just crawl away. I realize that 60 years ago some people did talk this way but I always found it offensive.
I doubt if you can do much to change his views at this late date. Just apologize to your friend if she was offended, and be careful in the future.
Love and blessings Don
2007-02-23 01:37:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
At his age, he's not likely to change.
If he said thing in a mean spirited way, you need to just make sure that you let him know that you don't appreciate his bigotry and keep your friend away from him.
If you don't think he was trying to be mean, then you have to understand that older generations are sometimes as ignorant as younger ones.
2007-02-23 01:32:36 · answer #7 · answered by Tough Love 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
words have impact and sometimes words hurt a person to their soul.
yeah it is quite a shock when someone you admire makes a comment like that.
even when my grandfather and my father knew how i felt about the off handed remarks they still would make crude comments.
not much you can do to change how he is. let him know how you feel about it. the next time he makes a comment, politely excuse yourself from the conversation and if he happens to ask where you are going explain to him again and continue on.
i found that i couldn't change them but i didn't have to sit there and listen to it either.
2007-02-23 01:43:43 · answer #8 · answered by polgara922 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the person who said we grow wiser as we age obviously haven't met your grandad. hahaha
just kidding.
it's totally wrong to be racist back then and its totally wrong to be racist now... how do you tell your grandpappy that his comments are very hurtful, i guess you can just try but i dont think it will change him.
just apologize to your friend about your grandpa's racist comments.
2007-02-23 01:38:32 · answer #9 · answered by klao8 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, unfortunately it is the old ways of our grandparents. But, you also need to let them know that this is your friend and that you would appreciate it if they did not use racial comments like that around you or your friends. And if he takes offense to it, let him be and sit and think about it. Hopefully, he will realize that he will not want to hurt you or your friends.
2007-02-23 01:34:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋