I was told my spouse was cheating on me by close friends, have no real proof. He denies it.what should i do?

Question

this is my second marriage and i have children. my friends told from a another source that he was with someone while I was away, and that another women is now saying she is having ralations with my husband and knows he is married. I confronted him with this info (told him I got a anonymous call) and he totally denied it, the second women lives right next to where he works.
she is not a hotty, I have seen her. I feel since I confronted him, he
knows he is not getting away with this behavior anymore. How do i not make myself crazy, I love him and believe will make this marriage work, but it is so hard not knowing the truth.

Answer 1

OK ask yourself this? WHY would your CLOSE FRIENDS lie to you? To hurt you? Do they secretly want your husband? CLOSE FRIENDS are not likely to lie about something like this. They have either seen something suspicious or heard somethng through the grape vine and are giving you a heads up. Oh and dont let the part where she is not a hotty comfort you any. My husband had an affair and what he saw in this woman is BEYOND me. I'm not saying he is cheating, I'm not saying he's not, all I am saying, is be on your toes. Google 'clues to catch a cheater'. There are tell tale signs of a cheaters behavior. I looked into them and my husband hit every single one of them, only I didnt know it at the time. If he is cheating, by you asking him, all you have done is let him know you are on to him, and he will work harder to cover his tracks. Men are a ton more likely to get caught cheating than women are. They get stupid and often forget the lies they told in the past. If you suspect it and its in your gut, he is probably doing it. A womans intuition is rarely wrong. Just be careful hun. You dont deserve to live your life wondering what your husband is doing behind your back. Be alert and do some investigation work yourself. Good luck.

Answer 2

OK, here's the scoop: someone is lying. I know you knew that, but sometimes you have to state the obvious and build from there. The second part of it is, you know your husband, and you don't know this other woman. You know how your husband lies, but this other woman is a total black box. If I lie to my wife, she immediately knows. (OK, she did the one time I lied, so maybe I just don't practice enough.) If you can't tell if your husband is lying, then either he's a really good liar (in which case, why did you marry him?) or he's telling the truth. The other woman, you have no way to know how good of a liar she is, so don't trust her just because she sounds like she's telling the truth.

Take your husband with you and confront her together. She is less likely to lie about being with him when he's there. You can ask her for details, and then ask your husband what he was doing at the times when she says she was with him. See if you can catch her in a lie or your husband in a lie.

Answer 3

Well, who do you trust more here, your friends or your husband? The answer should be your husband, but you're the only one who can answer this one. I can tell you, if you don't trust your husband, you've got problems, and should probably see a counselor, because any marriage is built on a foundation of trust.

As a friend who has seen another friend's spouse cheat on her, I would've stayed out of it. I wouldn't tell any friend of mine something like that about her husband, I would let her find out on her own. I mean, unless they (your friends) actually saw him having sex with this woman, THEY don't have proof either, anything they saw could be explained away.

Good luck, I hope you can find peace.

Answer 4

Ask your friends what facts they have to lead them to believe your husband is cheating. You also will know by any changes in his behaviour, such as working later than usual, paying more attention to his appearance, making excuses about where he is spending extra time away from home. In other words, see if changes in his behaviour as an indication of cheating. Men are usually creatures of habit, if you have seen an obvious change in his habits for no apparent reason, then that would be a strong sign he might be cheating. You know him better than any one else. Then keep your eyes and ears open. It may be just gossip but I can understand of how you are wanting reassurance of him being faithful. Best of luck to you!

Answer 5

If it's true, what are you planning to do about it? If he wants out of the marriage and you do too, then pursue that. Or do you just want to persecute him for indulging himself in the pleasure of another human being?

How does he treat you? Men don't "cheat" to hurt their mates, they do it because the opportunity presents itself. If a woman shows interest in him and falls for his "charm" (for lack of a better term), he's intrigued and wants to take it as far as it can go. Men can cheat and still treat their wives, girlfriends and/or significant legally bonded others well.

Answer 6

lets be honest what man is going to admit cheating i been married 15 years and never thought he would be did last year put your foot down and stop denying to yourself it's a shame you have no real evidence if i was you confront the woman good luck

Answer 7

Your so called friends told you this about your husband yet you have no proof. Many a marrige has been destroyed because of SO CALLED FRIENDS. Maybe you should TRUST your husbnad MORE and listen to your so called friends LESS.

Answer 8

The Bible says, "The truth will be revealed"
Ok, so i'm an atheist, but I still believe the phrase.
If there is something going on you will know soon enough.

Answer 9

Ask yourself why would close friends lie to you? Most friends won't lie, but the guilty party will deny everything.

Answer 10

Cheater always get caught if he is cheating it will happen
now that you have warned him he will be on guard.If you talk to the other ask her questions time, dates, thinks he said maybe that will help.Keep your eyes open.