I can easily remember bad times in my life, like being picked on in school, my parents arguing, never seeing my parent kiss each other, bad report cards and my parents' reactions to them, my car accident, being date raped, my marriage and divorce, my miscarriage, deaths/funerals....... This memories never seem to leave my mind and I don't have to think hard to recall them and I can remember all the details. But when I try to remember good times I have to think harder and sometimes I can't remember details about them and I do't have dreams about them. Like my best friend in elementary school and all our fun together, fishing with my father, riding my bike the first time, a birthday party, .....
See, I just made my point - I had to pause several times when trying to think of good times and the list is shorter than my list of bad times. Why is it that we tend to remember the bad times easier and more often? Is it because they have a bigger impact on us? What r your thoughts?
2007-02-23 01:08:27 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
well, it seems you have had a lot of bad things happen in your life. I can see how difficult that might be. I can only suggest that maybe you could take each bad event (when it pops into your mind) and say to yourself, "I'm going to replace this thought with the wonderful time I had fishing with my father" a continue until each time one of bad ones pop into your mind you already have a good "replacement" thought. It has worked for me.
2007-02-23 01:18:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember the good more than the bad
2007-02-23 09:53:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's our default brain mode. The bad times were so rough that they stand out, the good times, well they were usually easy!
2007-02-23 09:14:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they had a bigger impact on us. And maybe we're negative by nature.
2007-02-23 09:18:02 · answer #4 · answered by kitten lover3 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People like to dwell on their unhappiness more than be grateful for the good things they do have. It is hard to be positive because being negative gets them attention and sympathy.
2007-02-23 09:12:57 · answer #5 · answered by Alexandriagal 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
alot of my bad and good times are part of the same memory...i do something stupid, have fun, then deal with the outcome...which usually isn't good.
2007-02-23 09:17:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋