Do you believe that life is what you make it, or what others make it for you?

Question

I believe the latter more than the former applies more aptly to the majority of life's situations. Granted, it is a mixture of both, but the latter takes precedence. There has been more than once where someone's stupidity has directly affected the course of either mine or a close friend or family member's life.

To vanhammer. I did not say allow people to run your life. I'm talking the butterfly effect. For example, someone at work screws something up, say a file, that you are responsible for. You have to take care of it before you leave or are written up. Just so happens it's your anniversary. Your wife is pissed to the point of starting an argument since you couldn't just leave it till tomorrow, ect.... Things have a way of building on themselves.

Answer 1

I would agree having just gone through a five year nightmare involving a dispute with another family member.
It never ceases to amaze me that whatever you plan or whatever you do,there's going to be somebody with other ideas-usually,but not always pulling in the opposite direction.
Bottom line I suppose is that much of life is fate and being in the right place/right time scenario.
All one can do is damage limitation and not allow people to hold too much control in your life and what you do.

Answer 2

I think you can choose to run your own life or to allow others to do it for you. I personally run my own life with the help of God's will. People in general don't have much impact on my life other than family members. They affect my life if I'm worried about them, they are sick or in some kind of turmoil, but other than that I make my own decisions and am responsible for my own life.

Answer 3

Yeah, but it makes you fast on your feet!
What others do will always affect you. The real question is....how do you deal with it?? That will tell you what you are made of!