2007-02-23 00:31:50 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you must be 10 years old to ask such an immature question.
2007-02-23 03:24:57 · answer #1 · answered by NONAME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that shdwtalker is not in a long term marriage situation----we all feel that way sometimes. My best advice: STEP AWAY FROM THE CLOSET.... lol.
Seriously, we start to get too sensitive to each other because the stresses of every day build up. Get a day out with the girls. Go for a walk or to the gym. The key to getting through is using a simple formula HOW to stop being angry:
H - Honesty. Get honest with yourself. Whats your part in this? What part is out of your control? What part is his?
O - Openminded. Are you open to fixing it or just enjoying the thought of hitting him with the shoe too much (been there). Are you open enough to find a new solution (or do you just want to keep doing the same old thing and getting the same old result)
W - Willingness. How willing are you to contribute to your marriage. Get willing. Be the better person... pick it up one more time. Pray that next time will be h is turn...chances are he thinks he is the one carrying all the burden....so maybe you can tip the scales that little bit by just trying one more time....
SMILE.....
Find some physical activity to let the physical aggression go (seriously you get some adrenaline build u p with all that stewing)
If you must throw, throw marshmallows or have a plan....
I used to throw cords of wood....moved 5 cords 3 times one summer when things were particularly crazy round here.....
but I looked fantastic!!! lol
2007-02-23 09:30:47 · answer #2 · answered by Sweetserenity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, stop and breath. There was a time where you chose this man to have to have and to hold from this day forward...sickness & health...etc. Are things really that bad that you cannot communicate with him without resorting to violence?
Woman truly have most of the power in the marital relationship to make things happy again. Do yourself a really big favor. Go to a local book store and by Dr. Laura's books called The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands and The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage. Read them and follow her advice. I can tell you from personal experience that there is a lot of wisdom there than can help repair a marriage.
The only thing preventing you from being happy in this marriage is you. Think about it.
2007-02-23 08:55:22 · answer #3 · answered by Carl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt the exact same way about my EX husband. He made me sick - i left and now I feel free. He was incredibly controlling and over the years I grew to hate it. When I read your question the first thing that I thought of was the movie "War of the Roses" when the wife said "sometimes when I look at you I could just smash your face in" - hilarious show - anyway..take care. Do what you need to do before you REALLY hurt him!
2007-02-23 09:19:21 · answer #4 · answered by kajungirls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds really stupid but women are predictable and I hate that because I am the same way, so I have tried this new thing with my husband, when I am ready to blow up in his face, I start laughing. Really I laugh in his face...it throws him around the world because now he can not predict my next move, keeps him on his toes!!
2007-02-23 08:37:34 · answer #5 · answered by r_fazenbaker 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Knowing me I would do just that hit his *** in the face with the shoe.
2007-02-23 09:12:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hope that when he looks at your face he doesn't want to hit you in the face with his steel toed work boot.
2007-02-23 09:00:50 · answer #7 · answered by Mr R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank you God I'm not the only one that feels that way ! :) I've actually thrown a knife at my husband and now I have an ugly gash in my pretty antique table. So when ever I get that feeling I go look at my table until the feeling passes. My advise is find your "table".
2007-02-23 08:44:02 · answer #8 · answered by littlemama_rules 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Anger is all good and normal at times, but if you feel like this a lot you need to go to anger management and you need to go to counceling with your husband. Don't let it escalate into a domestic abuse situation. Good luck.
2007-02-23 08:35:19 · answer #9 · answered by spencermurraygaunt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try not to look at his face until the urge passes.
2007-02-23 09:02:21 · answer #10 · answered by Viking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is shocking to hear it that way. In that why did u marry him. In any case, do not look into his face and be happy, if it is possible.
2007-02-23 08:45:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋