I asked this question because my fiancee keeps telling me he knows I love him but he don't think I'm in love with him.Isn't it the same when you love someone you will do aything for them and when your in love you still do the same thing don't you.Is there a difference between loving someone and being in love?
2007-02-23 00:26:47 · 7 answers · asked by dccuttie75 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I love my friends but i am not in love with them. I love to drink Guinness but I am not in love with it.... does that help?
2007-02-23 00:34:35 · answer #1 · answered by monkienutz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are really asking the age-old question "what is love"? Although the word is much over-used and mis-used, it is clear to me that love can mean many different things. For example, is your love for your parents the same as your love for your fiance? Is your love for your brother or sister the same as your love for your dog? Of course, it isn't - love comes in many flavors and intensities.
I'm really not sure that there is a significant difference between being "in love" and just loving someone, unless your fiance is able to distinguish between the two. For me, this differential is nothing more than word play to hide what he really thinks.
If I were you, I would tell him that, if he wants to distinguish between these two different (in his mind) states of love, he needs to be more clear and give examples. After all, communication is the keystone of successful relationships and, if he is unable or unwilling to try to explain this better, perhaps you should consider whether he is looking for a way to wriggle out of the relationship.
2007-02-23 09:17:37 · answer #2 · answered by Chris W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Loving someone is passive- you love your Dad, Brother, Best friend or Mom for example.
Being 'in love' with someone is active in as much as you outwardly show it.
For example I love my best friend and would do anything for her, but I'm not 'in love' with her in the way I am with my husband. See?
What he may be trying to say is that he's doesn't see the passion of being 'in love' coming his way from you, but that he knows you love him-in as much as you care about him lots.
You should definitely have a chat with him, sounds to me like he's been feeling a bit insecure and you not seeing the difference that he does won't have been helping.
2007-02-23 10:12:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think the difference is you love someone when you want to have sex with them; and you are in love when you don't because you know what it is like to do it with them. Though I could be wrong
2007-02-23 08:38:15 · answer #4 · answered by northcarrlight 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loving someone is a conscious choice. (It may not have any sexula content...eg you can love your Mum, Dad, Sister, etc)
Being in love is an emotion....it is great when the two coincide.
You cannot fully choose about being in love....it just takes over.
I am pleased that I have it both ways. Hope you do, too.
2007-02-23 11:35:06 · answer #5 · answered by alan h 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's just a game with words.
eg:
I'm in love with sb(I got infatuated by their sth.) It's like a drug - you keep seizing it like it was irriplaceable.
I love beer. According to your counsciousness(Although you want it, you know you can't have it all the time).
Home it makes sense
2007-02-23 08:40:41 · answer #6 · answered by Focus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can love your mother father brother sister kids but when you are in love with someone you'll know the difference.
2007-02-23 08:56:43 · answer #7 · answered by astral 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋