Do I have to make a choice between the meaning of life and happiness? How can I stay happy perpetually and not rely on external materialisms ex a good man, great home, luxury bags etc etc to fill in the emptiness that prevails soon after?! How did you find that inner peace?
2007-02-22 23:46:02 · 13 answers · asked by Curious George 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The first step is to stop searching for happiness.
Focus on everyday pleasures. Enjoy things that might seem little and small on first sight. Nothing is little and small. When you start appreciating these details, a baby's talk, a child's song, a good cup of coffee, a walk by the sea, then you will be perceptive to happiness.
Remember, happiness is simple.
2007-02-23 00:17:15 · answer #1 · answered by Alice in Wonderbra 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first step is that you realized that those external things are nice, but not essential to true happiness.
You may get a lot of different answers to your question, but I know my answer to be worthwhile because I have met 100's of people who had once struggled as you do.
The next time someone shows up at your door to talk to you about the Bible, invite them in. Allow them to answer your every question from the Bible. You may be surprised.
As for myself, I am a married woman with 4 children and a husband and barely an extra penny. But I am happy within because I know I am valuable in God's eyes irregardless of my social stature.
You need to fill your inner void with the happiness that can only come from doing God's will.
Consider the empty pitiful life that many a very rich person lives. They have all the money they could ever need, but no real lasting happiness. This is because they forgot that spiritual wealth is much more powerful than material wealth that can be taken out with one huge stock market plunge or natural disaster.
Matt 5:3 states "Happy are those conscious of their spriritual need".
Again, this is just one woman's opinion, but I have seen it work time and time again.
Then next time they call, ANSWER the door and just talk!
I wish you much happiness!
2007-02-23 08:03:04 · answer #2 · answered by something_for_nothing 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe everyone has a life line ... a path they are "supposed" to follow. The farther you get away from that line the harder life is and the less happy you will be. The first step is to ignore what your friends and family tell you will make you happy and completely forget what society tells you and just start making a list of the things that have made you happy in the past. Make a routine out of the these things and add to the list as you discover more. I would love the opportunity to help you start with your list.
2007-02-23 07:56:30 · answer #3 · answered by RayCATNG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Material things will not make you happy. Whether you have a lot of money or very little doesn't matter - It matters on your attachements to those things. I believe you have to get rid of your attachments to material things - then it doesn't matter what you have because you don't care - you realize how meaningless those things are. I think its important to try be content in life regardless of ones particluar circumstances and realize that a lot of the the things that we worry about are really meaningless. I believe it is possible to find inner peace and true happiness. I found that meditation has helped me a lot in this area
2007-02-26 13:02:58 · answer #4 · answered by yoga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way to be happy, is to obtain the things that make you happy! Simple logic isn't it? You're unhappy because you don't have a good man, a great home, and a luxury bag. So, those are the things that you need to get. And if you can't do it, I'm sorry to say you will be unhappy forever. It's the cold hard reality. But I bet you didn't know you had such high goals for yourself.
2007-02-23 07:52:24 · answer #5 · answered by ThisAin'tASceneIt'sAnArm 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to find a purpose in life. I think about this often and it will eat at you if you don't let it go. As someone else suggested, do the things that make you happy. I have found living withn my means, providing for my wife and two little boys, exercising, spending time with friends/family, and trying to add as much value as possible to the work I do makes me happy. A lot of it is balance in my opinion.
2007-02-23 08:01:29 · answer #6 · answered by Quant 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Happiness is thought to be the byproduct of a full and productive life. Learn how to find your centre of consciousness by practising the techniques to be found at: www.relax7.com/7.php and in the last 6 blogs of Shan Eris on "tackling depression" at: www.myspace.com
2007-02-23 07:56:06 · answer #7 · answered by CLICKHEREx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The more you chase happiness, the harder it is to catch.
You have to learn to BE HAPPY.
You can't buy it.
You can't sell it.
You can't get it from others.
You have to find it from inside yourself.
It is actually easier to be happy when you have few material possessions than if you are filthy rich. Materializm is counterproductive in the search for happiness.
Sure, you can be physically more comfortable when you have more/better stuff. But the divorce rate is higher in rich families than in poor ones.... So is the suicide rate.
2007-02-23 07:52:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are happy by choice and practice. The most important step is to stop looking in at yourself so much and looking out of you. Wondering how others are feeling. Looking for ways to make others happy. By focusing on others your obsession with self diminishes and thus your importance to pander to your own personal selfishness diminishes.
2007-02-23 08:13:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my teacher told me to find true happiness is to be religious but I don't know. external materialism are just temporary it can never last. I'm still seeking my true happiness just like you.
2007-02-23 08:28:16 · answer #10 · answered by Luigi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋