I've just discovered I'm pregnant with my first child. Although my husband and I have been trying, it happened very quickly and I thought I would have more time to get used to the idea. Idon't feel anything, just numb and not all that bothered!!! I am 35 years old, I am terrifeid of childbirth as I live in a foreign country and have to travel 3 hours by boat to a decent maternity unit.
Will the feelings of elation come? I am only about 4 weeks gone.
2007-02-22 23:14:19 · 22 answers · asked by Nickynackynoo 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well, congratulations girl.
Welcome to the world of motherhood. Since this is your initiation, I will try to be brief.
I had to smile at your post where you say you wanted "more time". You have, God willing, 9 months to get ready, and you will. You're logistic problem isn't unsurmountable, but you might work on that (lol)
When you go into shock that numbness is exactly how you feel. It will pass. It will ALL pass.
Every woman who has given birth has been terrified to some degree.
OH PLEASE ladies who say not me. You have this person coming out of you that wasnt there to begin with, hello!! If that isn't scary as science fiction, I wanna be in your world.
But, you do it, it happens and the pain passes, I told you, it all passes. The most precious thing of all is time, it passes way to quickly. By the time you think you're ready to be a mom, you already are. So, tongue in cheek, laugh at your life and enjoy every second.
2007-02-22 23:33:17 · answer #1 · answered by Ann S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you just need to get used to it first.
When I found out I was pregnant I was excited but not as much as I thought I would be. I didn't really feel much and couldn't quite believe it was there so I didn't really look after myself as well as a pregnant woman should. Then at 6 weeks I had a miscarriage and although I was upset I really don't think it had all sunk in still. It wasn't until a week after that I just burst out crying and couldn't stop. The reality of what had happened had only just sunk in.
It probably because it was so quick. It was mine and my BFs first month of TTC when I got pg. I found out I was og at 5 weeks and miscarried at 6 weeks. It was so fast.
You wait until you go for an ultrasound, you see the baby's heartbeat, you can find out if its a boy or a girl, and all those things.I think you will be fine once you get used to the idea. Good luck x x
2007-02-22 23:30:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your likley to be in shock but i would say you need to talk to your husband about it then see how your feeling after it may take a while to get used to the idea but i would say you will the outlook won't always be bleak, maybe go and stay near the maternity unit a few days before your due date (obviously if you can't afford it, its going to be tricky but may help you be put a t ease) almost everybody has nerves about child birth i know not everybody will but most people are at some point during pregnancy but if you are going to see a doctor soon talk to him/her when you go they will put you at ease the best they can and will explain alot more than most people can.
Hope this helps a little and good luck for the future.
2007-02-22 23:23:26 · answer #3 · answered by laurabrown26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, please don't be terrified of childbirth--it is something women around the world have been doing since the beginning of time. Besides, you don't have to worry about that just yet. If you feel you are living too far away from a good medical facility, consider moving. You may just need to do so for peace of mind.
Secondly, please don't kick yourself over not feeling elated. I know lots of women who have HATED pregnancy, but once the baby was born, they LOVED being moms.
My guess is that you are still in shock that you got pregnant so easily. It seems to me that at 35, we start hearing all these infertility horror stories and we assume that it will take us years to get pregnant (I know I thought that--and WOW! I was wrong.)
All emotions are acceptable.
Godspeed.
2007-02-23 01:03:27 · answer #4 · answered by museumdoll 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your physique is going with the aid of a impressive style of differences. discover some thing that makes you happy and concentration on that. strolling can help your temper. I had temper swings lots and became drained each and all of the time which each so often brings you down. tell your husband to sleep in a various room or take a slumbering pill if that is frightening you. I definitely have a 18 month previous daughter and he or she is the excellent subject that has ever happened to me. My husband and that i won't be able to think of existence with out her. We now ask your self what we've been so busy doing earlier. solid luck!
2016-11-25 01:37:56 · answer #5 · answered by krolick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone a lot of woman go through that, I did. I was only married for 2 months when I found out that I´m pregnant. I was scared in the beginning and sometimes I´m still scared and think that I´m not ready....
I´m 22 weeks now and really enjoying my pregnancy, my husband has been a great support and that helped a lot. If it gets worse I suppose you go and see someone about it...
2007-02-22 23:23:37 · answer #6 · answered by Ladybird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, your excitement and desire to nurture your little one will come with time.
I too felt the same, we were trying and fell pregnant after 4 months. I wasn't emotionally prepared for the feelings of fear. Please also bear in mind that your hormones are going mad right now increasing the sensations 100 fold!
Just get through til you are showing or you feel the flutterings or even hear the heart beat or of course see baby on a scan. Then i am very sure you will feel very differently
Good luck with the pregnancy.
2007-02-22 23:49:42 · answer #7 · answered by cute s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happened to me in a different way. i got a miscarriege, than got pregnant again straight away and i just couldn't be happy. I think its more you can't beleive it that it happened so soon and you are blessed to be pregnant. you will start to be happy after 3 months. seeing the ultrasound and hearing the baby's heart beat. Maybe if you live far from a maternity unit, i would get a home doppler and listen to baby's heart myself. this will defeintly put your mind at rest. but i think you can't use it before at least 11to 14 weeks. you can order it from the net. i live 2 minutes away from the doctor, and every week i go and listen to the heartbeat. you will get closer to the baby, beleive me!
I wish you all the best, God Bless you and Good luck
2007-02-22 23:24:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a while to get used to the idea. Hearing that heartbeat the first time brought on that intense excitement. I felt numb at first, too - but it wore off rather quckly.
You'll be okay. And as time goes by, you'll get more and more excited about it.
2007-02-22 23:56:55 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i remember when i got pregnant with my first i felt the same way even tho we had been trying but as you start to get a bump and see your baby on the scans that's when i started feeling happy about being pregnant and its natural to worry about child birth but you will be surprised at how well we cope i will be doing it again for a third time soon so it cannot be that bad and i am a proper wimp
2007-02-22 23:50:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋