I have found out I am pregnant. 5 weeks and due on 26th October. I have always wanted to be expecting and now i am I was over the moon. I have wokedn up this morning and all of a sudden feel that It is not a good idea. My bloke has only just come round to the idea and I really do not know what to do. My job seems really importnant all of a sudden but now im pregnant after being told that I would need help having kids. What do I do? Im only 19!
2007-02-22 23:13:57 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
19 is really young to have a child, but you have to make the ultimate decision to keep, abort, or adoption. Even your boyfriend can't decide because that is your body. Think of what you want to do with your life and maybe you'll decide that you can handle a baby or maybe you'd like to put children off for a few years.
2007-02-22 23:18:56 · answer #1 · answered by JusMe 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋
This is a tough choice but hun, it is all up to you. 19 is young but it doesn't mean it won't be wonderful even though a bit hard. I have always wanted children and since i was about 17 been broody. I did get pregnant when i was 19 with my long term boyfriend, i was excited and wanted to keep it but he didn't..i ended up having an abortion which i thought was sad at the time but i do not have any regrets. Our relationship lasted another 8 months (did not break up cause of abortion) and i have now had time to do things and ty things i wouldn't have if i had a child to look after. I am 27 now and 9 months pregnant and couldn't be happier. I felt like you after a couple of weeks knowing, that my job was important, my vino nights with my ladies too and just have time to ourselves (me and my fiancee) but my guess is, these feelings are going to be present no matter how excited you are about being pregnant. You just have to decide whether it is a 'reality check' or if theses are things that actually mean more to you than having a baby at the moment. I think, in my situation, the best thing was to wait till everything felt right but that doesn't mean it is the same for you. There are a lot of young great mums out there who are justmeant to be mums...Know it's hard hun, but this one is completely up to you and what you think will be right for you! Good luck with whatever you decide to do and all the best x
2007-02-23 00:30:23 · answer #2 · answered by NewMama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being nervous about your pregnancy is the first instinct that comes to alot of us when we find out were prego. Really sit down and think about it because honestly having a baby and being pregnant is one of the most wonderful things life can give you! Yes being young could be a bit of a problem, seeing as how your not financially established. But now that your already pregnant your job shouldnt be priority #1, you have a little baby inside you. By 1 month (which your already at) your babys heart, lungs, and brain have already began developing. you wanted a baby to begin with so now you got one. just dont do anything stupid like get an abortion because you love your job and dont want to risk loosing it. if your job is that important you can always give your baby up for adoption, or take a maternity leave and return 6 weeks after you have the little one. Babys are alot of work but in the end you are someones whole world, to me, its worth it.
2007-02-22 23:25:00 · answer #3 · answered by alana:) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sweetie,it is not all fun and games like most young people think.And now you are on the other side of the line,you have some one else you have got to put 1st in your life even befor you & your man.Becoming a mommy is scarey the 1st time around you figure out that there is a little bundle of joy there that is going to depend on you for everything.But it will all come naturally.I would stop getting upset 1st its not good for the baby.then relax and think things over.Are you ready to be a mom? If that answer is i wont give my baby up, than it will all work out,and i am sure you have friends & family to help you out.As far as your job,you dont have to give that up there are a lot of working mommies.I dont know what you mean by being told you would need help having kids? I take it that a Dr said that meaning it would be hard for you to get pregnant,if thats the case than this is a double miricale fron God.He has blessed you twice in 1 sweet bundle of joy from him. I hope it all works out for you,Best of luck & congrads on the sweet baby
2007-02-22 23:40:21 · answer #4 · answered by Sunshine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! Firstly congratulations!
Wouldn't worry about feeling like that - think that's quite normal!! This is going to be a HUGE change in your life..
Your job is important however it'll still be there for you after baby's here!!
Think it's all to do with raging hormones, excitement, fear, anticipation. DON"T PANIC!!!
I think every honest women who has had children would say that although happy at this prospect that they were no a LITTLE bit nervous or apprehensive about this....
There is so much responsibility with this.. For the next 9 months you worry about if baby is ok and developing properly etc and think that when the birth is over the worrying stops about that.. Well being a MUM is worrying but it is also the most REWARDING 'job' you'll ever have and I would not change it for the world.
Good Luck and Keep smiling.
2007-02-22 23:21:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly normal to feel panicky after getting pregnant, particularly when the pregnancy is a surprise. 19 is a little young, but women that age do just fine with babies every day. Your priorities change when you have kids. I used to think I had to have a career, but my son changed all that. Now I just want to stay home with him! Those first few weeks can make you crazy. It's hormones - you can be deliriously happy one minute and bawling your eyes out the next.
Worst case scenario, you decide to give the baby up for adoption. You might even be able to arrange an open adoption so you can still see your child - but you've given it a chance at life and another couple a chance at parenthood.
2007-02-22 23:54:22 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnant after not having a period for 18 months and i was told i would need help conceiving i considered all options and i decided to have the baby i was 23 and it was still such a shock and i thought of all the things i'd have to give up, car job etc not be able to go out, but i now have a wonderful 18 year old daughter and im glad i did cos i wasnt able to get pregnant again even with fertility pills!!!
2007-02-26 11:56:57 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Karen Roe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a sudden realisation or the enormity of pregnancy and a lot like nerves, especially when you were so over the moon to start with. Maybe even the hormones of pregnancy are causing a few negative emotions.
How much do you really care about your career? Before this it sounds like you were willing to give it all up for children, so maybe it is just an excuse to stop admitting to yourself that you are nervous about being pregnant? I don't think you'll find a single mother who wasn't nervous to begin with.
Really think about it.. Try to imagine your life in five years time either with or without the baby...give yourself time before making the decision.
I hope it all works out.
2007-02-23 01:01:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not the end of the world and you will be able to manage your job and the babe, theres good child care around or family could help, you are probably feeling that your life is gonna be taken away from you right now a touch of shock and reality smacking you in the face, you will go through lots of different feelings and emotions in the coming months, all i can say is dont jump into any rash decisions yet - discuss all your feelings with your partner and try and agree something together and support each other its a big change for the both of you.
Wishing you luck
2007-02-22 23:29:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honey the only person that can really answer that question is yourself. I was devastated when I found out I was pregnant, I got married in August and in October I found out I was 6 weeks, for me it was too soon and I did not know what to do... But because I´m totally against abortion I´m currently 22 weeks and both me and my partner is so excited. Started feeling my baby move at 19 weeks and that is something no one can describe to you...
So at the end it´s your choice and no one can tell you what to do...
Good luck which you all the best...
2007-02-22 23:20:17 · answer #10 · answered by Ladybird 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
everyone has got his problems when pregnant. you should consider yourself lucky to be pregnant. if you do anything stupid like giving it away or abortion in 30 years you will be crying your baby not your job. you will regret it for the rest of your life. try to find a solution, because you know better than us what's best. you can keep your job, maybe a friend or grandma can watch your little one. or get a responsible and someone that you know as a baby sitter. there are day cares! there are so many solutions. think about it.
May God help you take the best decision so you and your baby will be happy.
2007-02-22 23:36:20 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋