if u are 16 and pregnant but cannot tell parents. is there any way to have a misscarriage???

Question

i do not want to have an abortion, i cant afford it. is there any way of losing a pregnancy by doing something else? ANYTHING!!!!!

Answer 1

You must NEVER EVER attempt to rid a pregnancy by yourself sweetheart, all sorts of bad things can happen, you could bleed to death the baby could die inside you and not come out completely. If you are 16 you are able to make an appointment and see your doctor on your own without your parents present. The doctor is not allowed to tell anyone including your parents about your appointment or why you were seeing him. I had an abortion at 16 and I didn't have to pay for it, it is done on the NHS, it depends which country you live in, I live in Britain. This is something you really need to think long and hard about hun, but you do need to be quick about it, so go and see your doctor asap. And then if you still feel you don't know what to do pluck up the courage to tell your mom at least you are her child she will want to help you she only wants the best for you, you may be surprised. She may be angry at first but after the initial shock has worn off she will be there for you I'm sure of it. Good luck, email me if you need to talk.

Answer 2

I wouldnt be here today if my 15 year old birthmother would not have has me.I am adopted,and have and am living a full and happy life thanks to the mature decision she made of placing me up for adoption.She was 15 and the father was 23.So many people have gone threw what you are going threw and you are no better or no worse than them.But that will change if you intentionally try to lose this baby.You are STILL killing a life,and its just as bad as a abortion.I suggest you find a person that you can talk to that can help you tell your parents.You can have the baby and let it live the life it wants,that you know deep down you want it to have.Just think,you would have never been here is your mom decided that she couldnt keep you so she might as well kill you.I in no way think your a bad person for asking this,I just feel its somthing you dont realise how much you will regret.I understand how scared you are right now and you just want everything to be ok,but weather you have the baby or not,things will never be the same.I really urge you to think about this.You could mean the world to a couple who can't have kids.And one day when the time is right depending on what kind of adoption (if you choose this path)you will possibly meet your child and they will thank you for the life you gave them.If you want to talk or need advice please feel free to e-mail me Ill tell you anything you want to know.
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ps.I know to you I may just sound like im preaching,and I dont want you to think that.So to answer your question,i sure there are many ways you could do what your wanting...But the things that could do it,could not only end your pregnancy,but end your life as well.You could cause yourself to never to be able to have children and when you find this out and want to adopt you will be among the others that would die just to say that they are a parent.They only thing is,you would have been the cause of your inability,and that would cause you more pain you are in now.

Answer 3

Hi there honey. You should understand that 'losing a pregnancy by doing something" is called an abortion. It is the same thing. Do you think that if there were something a person could safely do by themselves that abortion would be making the billions of dollars that it makes? No, there is nothing you could do and to try would endanger your health and that of your baby. Not a good idea.
The best thing for you to do is to sit down and talk to your parents. Have you had the pregnancy confirmed? Have you had a test?
Just for the record, I know young girls who have gone to their family doctors only to have the doctor run right into their office and call the parents to tell them what it going on. You can not always have faith in their confidentiality, especially if they know your parents. It is not legal but they do it. It might be better to see someone that they do not know or to go to a clinic that specializes in this sort of thing.
Having an abortion is NOT a solution! It only makes you the mother of a dead baby. I would try to stay away from Planned Parenthood if you can. They are the largest provider of abortion in the world and usually will not help you to explore other options. Believe me, I do know what you are going through and you just want it to all go away. Abortion does not make it go away, it will never go away. You will carry the shame and the guilt with you for the rest of your life. There are other options available to you, ones that will make you proud of the choice that you make. Ones that will not give you nightmares and that you will not have to lie about.
Ultimately your parents are your best allies in all this. They love you and while they may be angry at first, they will get over that. It may be their first reaction but then they will think about it and they will help you decide what to do. Go to them and talk to them. It sounds to me like you don't even know what you really want to do. Let your parents help you figure it out. It might be best to just talk to your Mother first, then she can talk to your father for you. Sometimes mothers have a way of smoothing the waters.
Have trust honey, and have faith, everything will work out just the way it is supposed to.
Good luck and feel free to write to me if you would like to.
Lady Trinity~

Answer 4

Is it the case that you don't want to have an abortion or that you do but you cannot afford it? If you can't afford it there are people that can help you pay for it. Your best bet it to go to a Planned Parenthood. They can discuss your options with you and if you choose, they may be able to help you find funding to have an abortion. To find the nearest location go to www.plannedparenthood.org. Whatever you do, do not try to miscarry yourself. You could die and women have in the past this is why abortion is legal. Good luck.

Answer 5

I know that people will give me the big old thumbs down for this one but here goes.
This is exactly why banning abortion is wrong and a bad idea. It would only resort to desparate young girls doing desparate (and dumb) things to get themselves out of trouble. A return to the "Back alley abortions" if you will.
Now i am not condoning abortion. I am not telling this young lady to get an abortion. If anything sweetheart-tell your parents today. Unless they are monsters they will accept it. They will be very pissed at first, but they will accept things in the end. You are so young, yet i have heard of much younger getting pregnant. 16? It will be hard on you to raise a kid. But if you are strong you can do it.
God Bless.....

Answer 6

You could end up with a damaged baby, or more seriously, you could harm yourself.
Its time to face the music and go to the docs. If you're in the UK, you dont need to pay for it, you can have an abortion on the NHS. Not sure about USA.

Parents aren't as scary as you think, they were young once too and will probably be much more sympathetic than you think. They love you, and will support you if they need you.
Also, if they ever found out, they would be more upset about you not confiding in them, than the fact that you are pregnant.
Please tell them. If you think that they will harm you or throw you out, go to your local 'free' hospital (if USA) & they will be able to give you contact details of someone that can help.

Answer 7

Well honey there is not really anything you can do other than having an abortion which I am against. I agree with the first answer, you wanted to be grown up enough to have sex, know you need to be a grown up and deal with the consequences. I know it sounds harsh but there is over 1,6 million abortions every year and so many mother that can´t conceive and would give anything for a bundle of joy.

Talking about something like that to your parents is not easy I know but maybe they react different than what you expect.

Answer 8

Read what you said and I translate it to "I actually want to have an abortion but your can't afford it". Which is understandable but anything you might be thinking of taking to induce a miscarriage might not work and it might even end up killing you and taking away your future ability to have children. I believe we do not want that happening...some of my friends had teen pregnancies and I have come across the exact kinda of fear that is around you as we speak but what I can tell you is 'talk to your parents and get it over and done with'. You and your parent will find a way to get past this hurdle.

You don't want to hurt them? Ofcourse every teen doesn't want to hurt their parents on purpose but at the moment you don't have any choice. Imagine just how hurt they will be if they discovered that you risked your life and that of your baby trying to induce a miscarriage. Talk to them, yes they will be angry but one thing I know they won't take a gun and shoot you for the one mistake you have made in your life. You're their child for God's sake and they love you to bits...they will find it in their heart to forgive (it might not be in two minutes but they won't stay mad forever) and they will also be able to give you the advise/support you need at this particular point in your life.

Try to see life beyond the one day you discovered you were pregnant. Talk to your parents. talk to your local health care workers, know your options and then 'go to your destiny'. Don't let something like this mean it the end for you. You can get yourself out of this...

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Answer 9

I do not know why you feel you cannot tell your parents, regardless they will love you and that Baby. I went through my first pregnancy and told no one but the dad and the doctor. It was a lonely experience and I could not get excited when she kicked. My parents told me if I had a child while I lived with them or out of wedlock they would have no part of either one of us. Well I did and believe me a baby can create miracles. My daughter is the apple of their eye and they have a strong loving relationship. I understand you may be worried or scared and being pregnant with the hormones only increases those feelings. Embrace your baby, love your baby and pleeeeeeeez tell your parents once they look at you with child the anticipation of being grandparents will warm their hearts.

Answer 10

by trying anything on the 'not to do while pregnant list ' you may seriously end up harming your baby or yourself, you need to tell someone you are pregnant.. there are so many people out there desperate for a baby, would you consider adoption?? If you have loving parrents they will support you.. you got pregnant, you didnt commit a huge crime. They will love you for beinghonest with them.. as i said, harming your baby could cause huge development problems, and that would lead to huge things to deal with if your attempted misscarriage is unsuccessful, like birth defects or severe handicaps! Consider adoption, or the fact that you may even love this child...