my bf is acting really werid with me 1 min hes all over me the next he is so horrible i want to leve him he keeps calling me names and telling me to **** off and he is demanding money off me then the next he says he dosnt want it and i was begin a *****. when am not i just could be sitting there watchin something on tv and he will turn it over and say he dosnt want o watch it but he is on the computer and i ask to turn back on and he try to start an argument by calling me names and saying he hates me. i also live with him and been to gether for nearly 3 year. i do love him and dont want to leve him what can i do so i dont feel like **** all the time and upset.
2007-02-22 22:01:57 · 11 answers · asked by shell 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
sorry i forgot to use full stops
2007-02-22 22:02:44 · update #1
the money thing is he pays for my car insurance i can aford to do it my self but he wont let me pay for it. then the next he tells me he wants all the money back
2007-02-22 22:23:34 · update #2
You should never stay in a relationship if it is making you unhappy, regardless of how long you have been together. Your first priority in life is to look after you self, don't let anyone take you for granted. If a man is acting like this towards you then you need to stand up for yourself and leave. If your worried about what he might do, ask a friend to stay with you while you either leave or get him to.
I understand that you love him, and the thought of being without him might scare you, and you don't want to be alone, but you have to think of what you will be like in 5 years time. Will you still be the same person after 8 years of emotional abuse. If a man has started acting like this, it's unlikely that he will ever change. Is there anything that might be making him emotionally unstable, his job, money worries, if theres something obvious then talking is always the best option perhaps mention seeing a professional.
Your happiness is what you should be concerned about and your emotional well being. Be brave and confident and best of luck, I know you must be very worried at the minute but have hope and stay strong
2007-02-22 22:15:39 · answer #1 · answered by joanna b 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i know u dont want people telling you that u should leave him so i wont.but i think the root of this problem could be drugs.it sounds like it could be with the mood swings and all.ive personally seen this before lots of times happening to people.watch him and see if he sneaks off at times to the bathroom etc for long periods of time.if its not drugs or drink maybe he has a touch of being psychotic or something or else he might be just pure sadistic.cant think what else it could be.does he have friends?there could be a clue there too.check em out.see what they say.you need to find out the reason why or else you cant fix it or decide what road to take.good luck.
2007-02-23 07:22:28 · answer #2 · answered by gavriel g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't sit down and talk to each other about it then I'm afraid your relationship isn't going anywhere.
Maybe he's trying to cause arguements to instigate a break up? His behaviour certainly isn't normal, something is bothering him and you need to know what it is so you can help.
You say you love him...really...? When he's like this? If that is true then you need to get it sorted or understand the problem by talking to him, you won't find out any other way unfortunately.
2007-02-23 06:21:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like an abusive relationship. It starts with the verbal abuse and will eventually work its way up to physical abuse. Why are you giving your boyfriend money? If he cares about you he will buy you things, not the other way around. Move on before you really get hurt, you deserve a lot better.
2007-02-23 06:17:19 · answer #4 · answered by juniper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know if you can change anything but i know for sure that i couldnt go on like this ... think about the love , is it really love what u feel ? do u want that someone treats u this way ? dont u deserve better ? having a argue from time to time is good as it brings fresh air into the relationship but not like this and not to be called all this he is calling u ...sorry but i think u should stop and get out of this , its not healthy anymore !!!
good luck
2007-02-23 06:17:44 · answer #5 · answered by athina68 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He sounds a right charmer. God knows how you stand it cos if it were me, i would turn around and walk a million miles away in the opposite direction. But then they do say that love is blind.
2007-02-25 09:10:28 · answer #6 · answered by chelsea19622000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahahahaha. grow some balls and dump him. or are you scared about the fall out. Never mind you probably drive him to tears as well. you sound like lots of women in this country. scared to be alone so they hang onto something untill something crops up. just get it over with and you might meet someone who does'nt secretly despise you fro your poor spelling and and use of full stops.
2007-02-23 07:12:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is one relationship you need to get out of. It sounds that he is very controlling and he knows it. The longer you let him control the longer it will be harder for you to stand up to him or leave. Best of luck!!!!
2007-02-23 06:20:57 · answer #8 · answered by chris350890 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him and don't want to leave
him and then why bringing this on here.
It is obvious he has grown tired of you.
better get you head together and think
of the future.
Also ask yourself is this the kind of future I want...?????
2007-02-23 06:18:35 · answer #9 · answered by popo dean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he calls you names just walk off or annoy him like he annoys you whilst telling him you dont deserve it just play him at his own games, theres nothing worse then been treated like that!!!
2007-02-23 07:36:40 · answer #10 · answered by sami 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋