I've known this lonely lady for 3 years. We struck up a friendship after we met whilst temping. She hasn't had a mother figure in her life & holds a lot of resentment as regards her mum, who kept abandoning her as a child, but I don't feel I should bear the brunt of it. I only have my mum in my whole life (whom I currently live with), as all my family are dead, but each time I discuss/mention my mum with my friend, she dismisses the conversation and turns quite nasty. I've shown her photos of me & my mum when I was a child, but she hardly looked at them. It's now got to the stage that just because I have a mum even, she's started to ignore me. I would have thought a friend would value me as me & not judge me on the basis of my living situation/familial background. The latest is I told her that my mum is treating me to a show for my birthday & I've not heard from her since. I've shown my friend nothing but acceptance from the first day we met. What should I do with my friend?
2007-02-22 20:19:28 · 7 answers · asked by Say It Like You Mean It 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Oh, by the way, I don't talk about my mum constantly with her, in fact, I hardly mention her.
2007-02-22 20:47:29 · update #1
She has problems which will be hard for you to cope with.
Drop her...You can't have a friend which you have to mind everything you say to her.
2007-02-22 20:30:43 · answer #1 · answered by Afi 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
if they are bored when you mention your mum, they could be some ways, or jealous of you cause you are close to her but, sorry to tell you, they are not real friends!!! cause my friends and i we talk about everything even about our parents and family!!! try to find some other good friends that you can trust!!! u have your mum so she can be the best friend ever!!! Tc
2007-02-23 04:33:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
your second line saves the day~lonely & friendship are the key words, where do they go?~i see you guessed that the world lonely has to leave~it is a killer in the word today~make her like a dog or cat but change the issue and rule the world
2007-02-23 04:28:11 · answer #3 · answered by bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poopsy, it sounds like your friend has some mental issues and those issue are not your fault. Maybe some time away from your friend will be good; because, it will give her time to reflect on her selfish behavior.
2007-02-23 04:33:38 · answer #4 · answered by Bud#21 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't call her a friend like you say friends accept you for who you are, she has a lot of bitterness and envy's you your loving mum let her ignore you..you don't need friends like that in your life just enjoy been with your mum, its her who has lost a kind caring friend which is a shame
2007-02-23 04:31:29 · answer #5 · answered by angie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. Let things go on the way they are and try not to mention things about your mom or bring that up. That's what I would do anyway. :)
2007-02-23 04:24:44 · answer #6 · answered by 88keys 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you don't only have your mom now. you have her too. take it easy. respect her wishes. let it sneak up on her. she'll come around after she gets used to having a good friend. be a good friend. and you have all of us too. :))
2007-02-23 04:25:30 · answer #7 · answered by Butch 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋