people who dont get mad at all, but hold it in?

Question

i have a little question that may be tough to answer.
im one of those people who almost never get mad. (well very rarely). of course i feel like a wimp.

one time i was in line for a club and some black kid just cut in front of me. i walk in front of him but he just says something and cuts me again. i didnt want to look stupid so i just let him.
at the time i really didnt care but the next day i was like "DAMN I SHOULD'VE SOCKED HIS MOUTH". or atleast said something.

my friends also sometimes make fun of me and i just laugh with them. of course its only joking but after a while i get really angry but i still end up just laughing with them. then when im not with them i start to get really angry.

i was wondering, for people that hold their anger in (like me), does that mean i can explode one day if someone just really crosses the line?
i mean sometimes i feel that it might happen and it'll get really violent.

Answer 1

yes i do think the explosion thing is possible. what i want you to do, is when someone does something mean to you, notice it, realize that you have the right to not be treated taht way. get angry in the moment, if only at a mental level with a thought like: (HOW DARE YOU DO TAHT). Then if you feel youre ready to say something to the person, go ahead, but if not. thats for later.
then the next time, once you realize youre angry, now you say, a little somethign, even if it scares you, just say it. force yourself to say something, anything, ( hey, you shoudlnt do that,man ) or whatever.
if they dont take you seriously, you can continue, but again if yorue still ready, you can wait till later and progressively become more and more assertive.

Answer 2

Yes it will happen... I happen to explode a lot of times... So, what you need to do is to let other people respect you and show them the respect they deserve... IT should be both... Never a one way street or else you will be trodden like a rag by other people... just show them and tell them that they need to get their act straight... try to use simple terms at first... then go for more aggressive words, if that doesn't work... then you SOCK 'em. You see unless they see that you are worthy of their respect they will never respect you... also you need to remember they are also afraid of what you might do to them... so just stick up to what you know is right... it is your right and it is a privilege if you allow them to have what they want... and they have to work for it... Unless it is one HOT CHICK!!! hehe. just joking... It is up to you... You choice, your call... or just be a weakling all your life...
Also, added advice, leave your friends if they do not know how to respect you...
Hope I helped...;-)