I am so focused on school that I am afraid of not putting forth enough effort towards my relationship with my boyfriend. My school work is very important to me and demands most of my time yet I love my boyfriend also. Is there a balance that can be reached?
2007-02-22 19:35:14 · 6 answers · asked by Miss_C 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
Anything is possible! However, this is very difficult to do. Remember that your school work should be on the top of your list of priorities. This work will last you a lifetime and is the foundation of your career. Keep up your efforts.
Your relationship doesn't have to suffer if the two of you are both looking to the future and realize that a few years of school will pass by in a short time. It's important to set aside time for you and your boyfriend to be together and leave the books behind. When you are with him, be WITH him. One thing I have discovered is that any relationship needs to be a two way give and take. He may miss you now, but later you'll be missing him when he pulls 60 hours a week at work. Also, there is no such thing as your fault or his fault. If your in a relationship with someone, when something goes wrong it's the fault of the two of you equally. And finally, the most important advice I can give comes from my Uncle who recently passed away. Always be nice to your mate, and treat each other with kindness. Good Luck to you!
2007-02-22 20:02:24 · answer #1 · answered by dennis f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many married students have enough time for both life and studies. It's like time for work and the other person.
Of course there is a balance. And there may be other things in life too.
It's hard to adapt when you first have the freedom to choose when you study, but you need time to have fun. Go to a movie, have dinner, go for a walk, play some mini golf or a game of chess... one fun thing a day is only a couple hours (or sometimes less) out of 16 awake. And, the relaxation from it helps you to concentrate better.
2007-02-22 20:58:04 · answer #2 · answered by dude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been with my wife since college. We've survived college and grad school. All while long distance. If both parties understand that school is important and are willing to make the sacrifices, it can work.
My buddy did the same thing.
2007-02-22 22:55:16 · answer #3 · answered by Linkin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to learn to compartalise
your life. Get together with your boyfriend and decide which days and times will be for school work and which days and times you can spend together.
2007-02-22 19:42:25 · answer #4 · answered by fatsausage 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends.. Are you the type of person who get emotionally attached? If so, I would recommend you to just be friends with your boyfriend for now. And yes, education should come first.
2007-02-23 19:59:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only if he can accept that. I would however maybe try a 'date night'. You take a night off and do something fun and romantic together.
2007-02-22 19:44:15 · answer #6 · answered by biancajh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋