My life has taken a downward spiral. I left my job for better opportunities (now I'm unemployed and unhappy), I am not wanting to spend time/or talk with my old friends from an old workplace, I've put on weight (15kilo's). I am a good person and was wondering when things will turn around for me. Has anyone else felt like this? Can anyone give me some advise to get me out of this rut... I'm getting numerous interviews but no job...I'm on a special diet - and haven't lost anything... Do you think the universe is trying to tell me something? No smart **** answers either. Thank you :)
2007-02-22 19:34:42 · 14 answers · asked by sexy rack 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
hey!
I don't know how much would the opinion or advice matter and help to you but thought of sharing this with ya at this moment.
There's this principle I have studied which is called a 90/10 principle. It says "We have no control over 10% of things that happens to us, but the rest of 90% are determined by how we react to those 10%"
Here's a small story to share..
Imagine that you are eating your breakfast with your family and your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee on your business shirt. You curse. You harshly scold her for knocking the cup of coffee. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her you turn to your spouse and criticize him for placing the cup to close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs to change your shirt. Back downstairs you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish her breakfast and get ready for the school. She misses the school bus. Your hubby must leave immediately for work. You rush your car and drive your daughter to the school. Your daughter runs towards the building without saying "Bye" to you. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find out that you forgot to bring some important papers at the office. Your day has started terrible. As the day continues, it seems to get worse and worse.You look forward to going home. When you arrive home you find a small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.
Why did you have a bad day?
Did the coffee cause it?
Did your daughter cause it?
Did your spouse cause it?
Did you cause it?
10% - You had no control over with what happened with the coffee.
How you reacted in those 5 minutes is what caused your bad day. – 90%
Here is what you could have done effectively:
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say “It’s OK honey, you just need to be more careful next time.”Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs to put on a new shirt. You come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves.You grab the papers that you are supposed to carry with you, kiss your spouse and you both go to work.You arrive 5 minutes early at the office and cheerfully greet the staff members.You arrive home after the office and your spouse and daughter are happy to see you. They hug you.
Two different scenarios
Both started the same
Both ended different
Why?
Because of how you REACTED.
Now you know the 90/10 secret.. apply it and you will be amazed at the resutls..
Henry
2007-03-02 16:30:17 · answer #1 · answered by nukeishere 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hind sight is 20 20 the saying goes. If you were not happy in your past job changing jobs is always a good option. Getting an interview is a sign that people think you can do the job and appear on paper as the person they want. But you are not the only person they are interviewing and unless they are looking for 300 people the odds are pretty low. instead of thinking why aren't they choosing me. why not look at ways in which you could become more desirable to the interviewer i don't mean loose weight. why not attend a seminar on how to interview better sometimes they are free at local community centers or employment offices. another option for a temporary job is look into temp work. I hope this helps ps next time you change jobs i recommend you look for the new job first and get accept ted before leaving as more employers higher if you are currently employed.
2007-02-23 03:45:56 · answer #2 · answered by joe bloggs 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If things don't look up soon I would suggest seeing a doctor and being checked for depression. But be fore that I would try a positive mental attitude it can go a long way in helping you through a rut, Try taking a walk daily and say hi to at least one new person on that walk. If it is to cold to walk out doors go to the mall and just roam around there .Things will get better cause you were successful once you can and will do it again just give it some time.
2007-02-23 07:43:21 · answer #3 · answered by Star of Florida 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to know that you are in a slump, but feel confident that you will get a job soon. Also, have some patience with the diet--they don't work overnight. Do you have a workout or exercise plan as well--or do you at least walk every day?
Everyone's lives have their ups and downs. Things should pick up for you, just try to remain calm.
2007-02-23 03:57:40 · answer #4 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You feel you're in a mess, but you want to do something about it so you will.
Everybody ***** up in life, I used to have the dream job - the pay was so-so, but the work was easy and the boss friendly and understanding. I left of my own volition because I thought I was destined for better things, and wound up in the worst mess I have ever been in, up to my ears in debt etc.
I have never let go of this one principle, that whatever happens is for the best. It really is true.
Oh, one more thing - it isn't the universe telling you something, it's yourself. Always listen to your self. It knows better than you do.
2007-02-23 14:28:19 · answer #5 · answered by The Singing President 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
based on your story, no. your reluctance to see any of the old crowd is understandable. just start thinking positive and start making plans to pull yourself out of your rut. if you can muster the courage, make a list of the people who can help you out and get in touch with them. maybe things will turn around. don't start thinking the universe is so focused on you, that's too much pressure.
2007-02-23 03:42:35 · answer #6 · answered by rooster1981 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I did the same thing and i am still looking for a way to come out on top,my advice don't give up.
2007-03-02 13:44:07 · answer #7 · answered by Jay A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The short answer is "**** happens." Only time you really fail is when you stop getting out of bed to try and make things better.
2007-02-23 03:38:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
everyone goes through highs and lows. if not for the lows how could we appreciate the highs?
make a plan. choose your strategy. then put it into action. stay positive.
this will pass.
good luck.
2007-02-23 03:40:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Things aren't turned to the bad until you stop trying.
2007-02-23 03:38:32 · answer #10 · answered by FCabanski 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋