People usually think i'm pretty, and they get intimidated. Sometimes people will like me at first, but then once they get to know me, they kind of just back off. I'm boring, and quiet. I feel like i don't have a personality...I feel ugly inside. I see everyone else laughing and having a good time, but i'm depressed alot of the time....Everyone says "oh you're prettty and young, enjoy it!"....but i can't, i feel like crap. I cry all the time, im a stupid emotional wreck...What can i do?
Thanks for taking the time to read this.
2007-02-22 19:25:50 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Thanks for the comforting answers. I'm gonna try to work on this
Joseph: i'm 17
2007-02-22 19:43:27 · update #1
Maybe you should consider talking to a counselor, It could be a case of depression or something that would need treatment. For your self esteem. People are right when they tell you your young so enjoy it. Look, you live ONCE dont give a flying f**k what people think about you. Be loud and crazy once in awhile. Never be afraid to say whats on your mind.
2007-02-22 19:38:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, have you ever asked yourself if you are that? crap?!
Let us take inventory...
Does you limbs work? Can you still walk? Can you still breathe? Can you still eat? Can you still think? Can you still feel you heart beating? Do you still have blood in your vein? Is your mind still working? If you answered yes, you are still complete...
Let us see your mental health...
Do you think you are worthy of better things? Do you think you are a person who has a lot of potential? Do you think that you are a person that can explore more about life? Do you think you do not know a lot of things around you? Do you think you are curious about life? If you say yes, you are OK.
Let us see your heart...
What do you love? What do you want to do and have never done it? What do you need in your life? do you love yourself? Do you feel that everyone sees you as an interesting person? Do you feel that people will give you everything you need at the time? Do you think that you will find yourself and be a woman of worth and substance? Do you hope to see the greatest secret and miracle in the world? If you say yes, you are ready to face the world...
Remember, you have the most important power in your life... CHOICE... use it wisely... You have your life... take it it is yours... Be responsible for it... and explore what is here and now...
You have a gift... a present... the PRESENT... NOW!!! Open the door and you will see other doors that lead to more doors... Listen to Beethoven... then you will hear Bach and Mozart... You open a book about living and you open other books that are related to it and those you need at the time you need it...
We think much less than what we know... we can think of only a few things at once...
We know much less than what we love... Do you know the full history of you parents?
We love much less than what there is... Can you love everyone and everything?
To this precise extent, we are much less than what we are...
you see how big you can be... you haven't even started yet... live you life... explore yourself... find out about the life you wish to live and you will see you will be on an adventure of a lifetime... YOURS...;-)
Love you kiddo, even if we will never meet...
2007-02-23 05:17:22 · answer #2 · answered by DEADPOOL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to spend time with people that you find interesting or have a common interest with you. You admire these extroverted people and associate with them but label yourself as boring in comparison to them. Accept the fact that you are not an extrovert but decide what you are. For example, if you were into stamp collecting you should go to stamp fairs and conventions. There you will meet people with similar interests who will not find you boring at all.
You are only upset because you have created a mental model of what you think you should be and you cannot live up to it. Change the model to reflect the real you and it all becomes easy.
2007-02-23 04:11:02 · answer #3 · answered by John B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi kierra,its time to break out,if you have low self esteem then you will feel depressed,by feeling depressed then this will make your self esteem even lower,its so easy to get yourself into a vicious circle that seems never ending.talk to people get yourself out more break the circle.dont let yourself be a victim of circunstance,if you are pretty and people are interested in you then seem to back off then perhaps you are mixing with the wrong people,perhaps it is them and not you,many many men and women feel intimidated by someone that seems intellectual,they seem that they cannot handle someone that is level headed and not giggly.i feel from your post that you are indeed a likeable person that just needs to not worry what others think and just learn to let your inner and outer beauty work in harmony with each other,then people will see the real you.
2007-02-23 03:37:41 · answer #4 · answered by the gaffer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can do a lot because you are young and pretty. You should be happy. Get seriously interested in a person or a subject like
psychology. For example Dr. Martin Seligman at the University
of Pennsylvania.You can reach him at www.authentichappiness.
sas.upenn.edu/ - In addition do some physical exercise and
open air sports.
2007-02-23 03:56:17 · answer #5 · answered by Fred W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you have to ask yourself why are you depressed. Second of all you should seek counselling to help you find and categorize your pain and rationalize it. Then you can start with a clean slate. When you are depressed how can you come up with anything interesting because all you can feel is your own pain. I used to be so painfully shy my aunt who hadnt seen me since I was 13 thought there may be something wrong with me since I never talked..Now they have to duct tape me up sometimes so relax you will get through this one way or another. You will eventually find yourself and be just fine. For you to write to us on here says you definately can communicate so dont you worry about a thing.
2007-02-23 07:42:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am the product of this i feel worse than u by the fact that i can't even focus it hurt so bad, first rescue a person who feels this way take personal love and attention that comes from being in a love relationship to cure and maintain, so being naive i jump in and save her from despair only to strengthen her tell she no longer has an interest in me and leaves me,(this is like bad business to do this more than four times, most were to start with in a distress mode of operation or they changed the bait and switch tactics as the bell curve of renewals we achieved, any way u can cure your self by helping others where u have your strengths and they will inadvertently give your support from your values to weave into social practices, don't sweat the small stuff~and it's all small stuff, once you achieve a strong personality you may not like what you let them build in you, this makes the position you hold know so very perfect in switching on different modes to take over for negative reactions, judgmental is not healthy in report, you are good at many things and abide by these rules of engaging what you know and bargain wisely for fun in understanding their humor is not your focus but avoided its content will defuse and then it is not remembered, it is in these memories that conflict & stress situations~smile and pretend u have a smooth operation
2007-02-23 03:45:49 · answer #7 · answered by bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to feel like that a lot of the time too... just try to loosen up and not worry about what other people are thinking. Stop taking life so seriously!
2007-02-23 03:31:24 · answer #8 · answered by Shakespeare, William 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmm yeah it sucks doesn't it. . I'm sick of smiling and pretending that nothing is wrong when it is. I reckon that it helps somewhat talking to someone, you don't have to know them. .could be anyone, just to get everything out it sort of feels better. Also in blogs and such I reckon it helps to write what your feeling down. .I don't know bout you but it helps a little for me. . best of luck. . xo
2007-02-23 05:52:11 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to boost your morale and confidence and you will be appreciated. Be widely read to enable you discuss various topics / answer what you are asked.
2007-02-23 03:35:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋