Just a general question really do people out there think it is just one persons fault with regards getting on with people. For example where i work the loud people seem to know everyone and im still struggling to get to know people in my department and ive been there 2 years.
I would just like to know as i dont know if it is entirely me being shy and giving bad vibes or them not knowing how to approach me. As i dont know what to do in my situation whether to try and talk to people more and see if the response changes or just accept im not the perfect mould.
2007-02-22 19:14:30 · 5 answers · asked by ludvigjs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think you have answered your own question, you don't have to be loud to be polite and cheerfull, keep a smile on your face say Hi to people as you go past, let them know who you are, being shy can be horrible at times but just that little bit of effort on your part could make all the difference, Good Luck
2007-02-22 19:19:48 · answer #1 · answered by decrepid1958 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Never try to be like other people. People who speak less are usually far wiser than the ones who just babble on. Usually the loud and boisterous ones are people with worse inferiority complexes than you, only they have built up walls and come forward as happyand bubbly when they are living a lie. One usually discovers them by their twisted tails.
Never envy people who are like that, because God did not design you to be that way. If you read the book of proverbs you will see many verses that tell you about loud people being like clanging symbols etc. I would also not confide in people like that simply because they are not good at keeping secrets either.
Be whom God made you to be and that is you. We are all different peas in one pod but each pea is unique. Some appear perfect but are bitter. Some are perfect and sweet. Some are smaller some are larger. Thats the way they are.
If you are always shy and withdraw from people it might also be a result of rejection. You dont want to be hurt again, so you rather lay safe and keep to yourself. If you choose to override those feelings and become a bit bolder and step out in faith not doubting yourself, but fearlessly, trusting GOd to hel you initiate friendships, you will make them and good ones. You need confidence. I sense you lack confidence. You dont feel worthy to be in the company of others. You re worthy. You are special. You were brought to earth for a purpose and you are loved too, by your creator. Read Psalm 139.
Just be yourself and look deeper at why you withdraw from people. Seek help if you think you might have a problem with rejection.
Email me if you want some information on rejction. I have some wonderful information for you.
God bless you and may he show you who you are inhim and who he is in you. Read the book BE ALL YOU CAN BE by John Maxwell and THE PURPOSE DRIVEN LIFE by Rick Warren.
Both are excellent.
2007-02-22 19:51:24 · answer #2 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi- I am working with a lot of people every day and my secret is that each person is different and needs to be approached in a unique way to really get to know them (even on work level only). I enjoy finding out what makes people tick- as soon as you know a tiny thing about a person you have something to latch onto other than "Hi". I believe relationships at work are essential and you should really give it a shot - I make an effort to get to know everybody form my management team to the cleaning lady. Start with people that seem to be "easy" could be the loud ones (but dont be loud as well to be part of "them" - you do not have to impress them, you only want to interact with them) but mostly its the friendly, positive ones that make it easy to get in contact with them. Another good way is to engage in office initiatives (organizing parties, or fundays...depends on your company)- you quickly have s.th. in common with people straight away and in the process you get to know some personal details as well that will help you to "click". Like the other user said, smile, be firendly (not forced!) and positive and people will approach you. You have nothing to lose but to gain a more interactive workenvironment and who knows you might discover you are working with some really incredible people:-)
2007-02-22 19:35:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People are different. That's just life. Either people will accpet you for who you are, or they won't, but don't go trying to change your behavior to suit them. That will just cause you emotional trouble.
2007-02-22 19:21:24 · answer #4 · answered by Big Happy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont tight your face (this could scare people from you) smile, be polite, say hi to people that come your way and dats all
2007-02-22 20:39:45 · answer #5 · answered by babygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋