I just think its funny that people get shocked like nice people dont have feelings or something. I remember my friend cussed out someone that was mocking him and nobody expected it. next thing you now people are talking about his going crazy, no his letting out his anger.
2007-02-22 17:55:27 · 14 answers · asked by jason j 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Because people are so used to his usual way of not getting publicly mad. So they expect him to be nice, always. They sometimes fail to understand that he has ALL kinds of feelings and can express them just like everyone else.
2007-02-22 17:59:55 · answer #1 · answered by lostlittlegirl 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have had this experience so many times. I'm a nice guy generally and never shout or show anger. When I do, people freak.
I jumped on one of my oldest son's friends once for bringing drugs (crack) into my barn. Everyone thought I was the Antichrist! Go figure. Sure I might have promised to kill him and maybe I did use the pitchfork to exact my point. I never raised my voice and other than the two things mentioned above I was polite.
Nice guys have feelings and people they love they all want home and family safe from any form of danger. We should have the right to react and stop people from doing damage or causing trouble. Don't you think?
2007-02-22 18:09:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
It's just unexpected. Some people are too nice and put up with crap off of everyone for extended periods of time. Then when the person finally blows up the other party acts like the nice guy went crazy even though in reality he knows he pushed him too far.
I just wanted to say that I read through the other responses and someone said "civilized people don't do that" or something similar to that. I just read an article on yahoo health a couple of days ago that said getting angry and letting it out is actually good for your health. It also said it's not good to get violently angry everyday, but when you just get angry occasionally and let it out it's actually good for you. Even the civilized people!
2007-02-22 18:05:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
People all want change, but people are ignorant to change themselves. When a nice person gets mad, it in turn is a change and people go crazy about it and actually hate the person more than other people who are complete assholes their whole life.
when an asshole finally changes for a short while, everyone notices and appreciates it, hell they appreciate it more than the good person doing good deeds. but when a nice person turns to be an asshole for one time, everyone hates them more than the actual asshole. why? well, when people perceive you as a nice person, they want it to stay like that because it is easier to manipulate nicer people. you would most likely ask the nice guy to bring you the paper from the other street than the asshole to bring you a glass of water right next to them. The moment a nice person pops out with all the bottled emotion that is amplified by different times of being underappreciated and taken advantage of, people cant seem to accept it because it is another problem in their life. they would rather hate and forget about you and not have you there because it would be one less problem for them to handle. because they know you are a nice person, you will still be friends/family after the dispute. Sadly, this is just how society deals with nice people and nice people are always the one to suffer.
2016-07-29 20:51:00 · answer #4 · answered by dan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you mean by "nice" people. Civilized persons are like any other except that they keep their emotions within boundaries of logic, empathy and compassion.
A temper tantrum (i.e. cussing someone out, etc.) is more of a primal emotion, triggering the limbic system. Watching something like this occuring with your friend was, for you, unexpected as it was not "nice" per se, and I think that in a civilized culture, it's like watching a train wreck: It's not a pleasant thing to witness, but you cannot help looking; and you're amazed that your friend reached his breaking point.
Have you ever done something so outrageous that you actually embarassed or shamed yourself and felt terrible afterward? We all do things we're not proud of, but that's where human nature gets interesting. We're all subconsciously (or consciously) walking a fine line between civil and primal, or, if you like, good and bad social ettiquette.
It takes a humble and gracious soul to apologize for such behavior, than to go on a "guess I told HIM" rant.
There's much more to this, but I think a point is made here. Hope it helps!
Peace!
2007-02-22 18:21:48 · answer #5 · answered by niteowl716 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, I guess it's the same theory as a bad person suddenly do good things...and everyone will praise him/her like mad. vs. a good person doing the same good thing, it's kinda of expected n no surprise at all...it's sad, but it's the reality.
I think the most important thing is we know we are doing the right thing and accepting ourselves.
2007-02-22 18:09:43 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
no, going crazy would be kicking the guys ***.
and the really nice people wouldn't show their anger at getting mocked, and cussing someone out like that can only ruin your reputation anyways.
2007-02-22 18:03:55 · answer #7 · answered by Nick T 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
It is because nice people will take it and take it and take it until they are ready to explode, THEN they unleash it on someone who maybe did one little thing and this nice person is reacting to twenty little things that twenty other people did!
2007-02-22 18:00:25 · answer #8 · answered by Pixie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
although some people don't seem boutrios,doesn't mean they should be quiet if thier feelings are hurt.mant people take a while to let things get to them.there is nothing wrong with what he did or how he reacted.
Would they like it if were to happen to them.Would they be quiet?
2007-02-22 18:05:33 · answer #9 · answered by BaDonkaDonk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so know how that feels. I'm pretty right in your face type/very compassionate. whee i explode, after waiting til i think i will litter ally, everyone thinks I'm nuts. ben happenin since ive been sm, 30+ yrs. found out the hard way............
just something healers do
2007-02-22 18:01:46 · answer #10 · answered by bearfox_traders 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋