we used to make love occasionally earlier...atleast twice a week..now he doesnt seem to be interested in making love..or even holding my had...he loves me i know..his eyes say it at times...but i miss the intimacy bad...im quite good looking too..and i know he's not cheating..how do i get the spice back??
2007-02-22 17:54:53 · 22 answers · asked by Jennie S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Familiarity breeds contempt.
Forbidden fruit is always sweeter.
I just felt like saying that so I did.
Spice it up a bit, leave a trail of lingerie from the door to the bed for him to follow when he gets home. Dress in your sexiest skin and nothing else. Have a chilled bottle of champagne and two glass next to the bed and tell him to get undressed and drink up because you intend to give him the thrill of your life. Ask him to lay down and do everything you have ever wanted but thought was too rude or frightening. The results should at least be interesting.
There are a thousand variations on games you can play but it depends on individual comfort zones. One of you lays down while the other kisses all over or strokes with a feather. Oil massage. Any and every position. Whatever works for both of you.
Stage a sexual ambush by jumping him in the shower.
Use your imagination or else your life together is going to be "OK, its Saturday night and 10:00 o'clock so it must be time for sex. Adopt the position dear." A fate worse than death.
2007-02-22 18:10:27 · answer #1 · answered by John B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U can't expect roses for the whole life right?
But u can spice up and maintain the stimulation if u want.
Try making love in different places or venue rather than the usual place or bed u hv as it helps to stimulate his moods.
Be initiative yet seductive. Just like a pussy cat, purring for him but waiting for him to prowl at u.
Try positions u never experience with him before.
Set up an evening, make it a surprise, dim the lights, dress loosely and sexily and make it look natural. When he is around pretend u r half asleep or if u r adventurous enough try playing with yrself to arouse his nerve and along with soft seducing moans. It sure helps to heat up the mood.
And well, there's more u can imagine but be sure to do something different each time. He may be begging for more! Cheers to a wonderful relationships!
2007-02-23 03:28:12 · answer #2 · answered by RenRen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately this is something that happens in marriage. Many men have the madonna/whore syndrome. not that you were a whore but once married many men put the wife in the madonna catagory neve to be touche again. tell him what you told us let him know that you want to keep up the fire you starte with. You do know it will not be the exact same frequency but you deserve something and you do not intend to live as a nun while married. Ask him what's up and see if he will talk about it. suggest he talk to his doctor if he has any "problems" he doesn't want to discuss with you (although he should)
If none of this helps and there is no change I would considere getting out of the marriage unless you are prepared to live in one without sex which is not gonna be a very good idea anyway.... so its either solve the problem or walk and you should let him know that too.
2007-02-23 02:02:29 · answer #3 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the two of you may be going through a rut. My husband and I have been together for eight years and we can go up to a year without sexual intercourse, after the birth of our son. We tried counseling and got nothing out of it, really. We had to be patient with each other and we started paying more attention to what the others interests are. That has helped a lot. Our intimate life now extends far beyond the physical.
2007-02-23 02:07:01 · answer #4 · answered by monicastocker74 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It happens. Surprise him when he comes home 4rum work with a sexy french maid outfit on...he will definatley get excited then...no man can resist that. Tell him how u feel. Also, u can try 2 do sumthin. When he's least expecting it head down south and shock him...The THRILL IS NOT GONE!!! KEEP HOPE ALIVE! GOOD LUCK!
2007-02-23 02:04:27 · answer #5 · answered by 1hotmama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take the initiative, take the lead. If he doesn't respond he could have a physical problem. See if you can get him to have a medical exam. Everyone should have one at least once a year. Tell him how you feel.
2007-02-23 02:00:30 · answer #6 · answered by kwilfort 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried initiating it on your end? Don't wait for him to take the lead. If that doesn't work, well, tell him you want to have more sex and you want to be adventuresome. Adding whips, chains, surgical tubing, midgets, staple guns, etc., may spice things up (JK, but you get my point).
2007-02-23 01:59:00 · answer #7 · answered by angrysandwichguy_2007 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make an initiative to approach him in a sexual way.try for starters a fancy candlelit dinner.Wear provocative clothing.something you know he likes.try a massage using the lotion that warms up when rubbed on.Maybe offer a bath.try a sexy neglige.(i might have spelled that wrong)
Good luck,,just use your imagination...
2007-02-23 02:49:17 · answer #8 · answered by BaDonkaDonk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brew up some romance... take him out on a date or something... Or make him dinner for 2 with candles lit... Maybe try Lingerie if you haven't yet. n
2007-02-23 02:00:18 · answer #9 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
easy. You have to make that change. So, he's not holding your hand, are you holding his? Are making love to him? are you flirting with him? are you going to kiss him, hug him, and make him feel good?
Try giving yourself to your husband instead of waiting for him...
2007-02-23 02:25:32 · answer #10 · answered by Pandora 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋