He is a charmer, knows what to say and easy to talk to, first it all seemed simple and platonic,we live in different towns, but when he comes to town we meet each other, and talk mostly on phone, When he told me he loved me I cut off communication, but when things got bad in my marriage I decided to talk to him, problem is he thinks am ready to have him, I told him just as a friend but he seems to want more, not that he is pressuring but he calls and tells me all the nice things and how much he loves me.I know am not getting this attention from my husband but I have no feelings for this guy at all. Should I continue talking to him . can he understand that all I need is a person to talk to not a substitute.
2007-02-22 17:34:02 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he is married leave him be.
2007-02-22 17:37:17 · answer #1 · answered by Mindy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is not a good idea to continue going behind the spouses backs, both of you!
Secondly, This is only going to cause problems in both of your marriages.
No matter how platonic you think this relationship is, it is not. Can't you see that, time to put a end to this communication. Invest the time you would spend on the phone in your marriage!!!Maybe you wouldn't have things going bad in your marriage.
Your putting your self and your marriage in harms way,
2007-02-23 01:44:56 · answer #2 · answered by Dodie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The path you are on only leads to hurt and resentment. And possibly the destruction of a marriage or two. Your relationship has obviously gotten more serious and you should cut ties. Find a girlfriend to talk to. Someone that you wouldn't be ashamed of your husband seeing you out to lunch with.
2007-02-23 01:39:09 · answer #3 · answered by J D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a trap honey one that will bring you endless problems. Stop talking to this married man. He is going to take advantage of you because he can see you are starved for attention. You should not continue to do anythign with him. Get you a girlfriend to talk to or go to a therapist. This man means you no good. Take that energy to work on you own marriage or to end it. Good Luck
2007-02-23 01:47:05 · answer #4 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you needed attention but you made the mistake of not getting it from not only your husband, but someone Else's husband. you need to cut off all communication with him. focus on yourself, and your husband. imagine that you and your husband were having a good relationship and this situation was reversed. you would be hurt, as I'm sure this mans wife would be if she knew what was going on. if you need someone to talk to, call a relative you're close to, or a girlfriend. someone other than this man!
2007-02-23 09:05:38 · answer #5 · answered by jdchick48 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you both break it off with your spouces it would be okay. but i would have to say that i wouldn't. think ahead. what do you think will happen (if the two of you get together) when things get rough between you. think of him saying the same things he is saying to you to some other girl. I have been in this situation and I can tell you that the saying is true: once a cheater always a cheater.
2007-02-23 01:54:16 · answer #6 · answered by trish8524 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really seems that he doesn't understand that you are just friends. It maybe time to cut off communication again and find someone with less emotional baggage to talk too.
2007-02-23 01:43:50 · answer #7 · answered by justbnlazy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By all means, cut off all contact with him. He's married and you will find yourself in a mess if you continue this relationship.
2007-02-23 01:37:49 · answer #8 · answered by Dyan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then what he's doing is having an emotional affair with you. (wether or not you are) It will effect his marraige in a negative way.
You need to give him space and let his marraige grow. There are many men for you to chose that aren't attached.
2007-02-23 01:38:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
run girlfriend,if your unhappy in your marriage,fix it or leave,find someone else whos unattatched
2007-02-23 01:37:42 · answer #10 · answered by jewel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋