Me and my ex fiancee broke up over a year ago. She cheated on me (long story). But we had a bad break up, and then we kind of started to be friends, and then she got a new boyfriend about 8 months ago and ive been with mine for about 5 months. my question is should i email her to see if i can get that ring back ?? and should i tell my new gf that im doing it? i just don't want to start a big fight because my new gf thinks i want her back. i could really really use the money right now, but the last few times i tried talking to her (my ex) she has been a total rip. What should i do ??
2007-02-22 17:32:55 · 17 answers · asked by motivated0311 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
we were dating since high school (over 5 years) and i went on active duty and came back, got engaged and then about 3 months later i found out she cheated on me ... and the ring is 2 carats and i paid 3500 dollars for it....
2007-02-22 17:46:04 · update #1
when i broke it off, i turned into a raging party animal and spent ALOT of money that i didn't have on drinking.... just A@@hole deep and that money would give me a big boost...
2007-02-22 17:50:57 · update #2
Just ask her for the ring back and explain to her that you need the money and would like to sell the ring or something. Or there is always plan B. Which is break in to her place and steal the ring back. Though I would recommend not doing plan B.
If she did cheat on *you* there is no reason why you can't have *your* ring back.
I Hope This Helps!
Good Luck!
2007-02-22 17:40:29 · answer #1 · answered by jessika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO you don't need to tell your new GF anything. Why? What's the relevance? You're not doing anything wrong and why chance pissing your new GF off? See if you can get on friendly terms with the ex. Ask her whatever happened to the ring you gave her. Hopefully she'll say she still has it, then you can kindly ask her if it'd be possible for you to get it back. Peronally I would have given it back when I broke up with the guy. And we both know she doesn't need it or deserve it. If she tells you no you can't have it, then screw it! Let it rip on her! At that point what do you have to lose? You already lost the ring and you sure as hell won't need her friendship if she's gonna keep it.
2007-02-22 17:40:23 · answer #2 · answered by glittereyedg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the ring is actually worth that much to you and she won't give it back you could take her to small claims court. Or even better, go on one of those 'judge' shoes like The People's Court, Judge Judy, or Judge Joe Brown! You'll probably both come off looking like a pair of idiots but they have a 'pot' to divvy for appearing on the show and you might both come out ahead! Be aware however that the ring is probably not worth what you think it is... if you bought retail it was marked up considerably and you'll only get a fraction of it's worth if you sell it.
2007-02-22 17:37:54 · answer #3 · answered by endorable 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your current girlfriend that you want the ring back because you need the money. Assure her that you do not want your ex( if that is truly the case) Tell your ex that you want the ring returned. If she does not return it you could take her to court for it. If you actually ended the engagement, then she is entitled to keep the ring. If she actually ended things then she is supposed to give the ring back. Tell her you will take her to court for the ring.....and then do it.
2007-02-22 17:37:08 · answer #4 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her family about it.
yes, you've given it to her it's hers. BUT she can't keep it especially if you're not engaged. or you can also report it to a police if she doesn't wanna give it back. threat her about it first.
you may and may not tell your gf. depends on how you're going to say it. but better not. because she might feel that you're getting the ring back to give it to her. nobody likes second handed things. especially engagement rings!!! (even if you don't plan to give it to her she'll think it like that). so better not tell her. no use reeling up something not good.
2007-02-22 17:40:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. You gave it to her. Don't get engaged unless your sure. If you were with her for over five years and then she cheated on you then yeah you were played and that ain't cool and get your ring back. Other than that your mistake. Its a gift.
2007-02-22 17:39:22 · answer #6 · answered by dazed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget it mate, there is more to life than a bit of gold. consentrate on your new girl. if you went back with your ex then you must be prepared for her to cheet on you againe. Convince your new girl that she is the only one for you. Once you have split from someone it is always a bad thing to go back to them. Good luck.
2007-02-22 17:46:40 · answer #7 · answered by jcbstuart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, just effing go over and make her give it back to you.
Also, be less of a pushover. I can tell you're a really nice dude. And nice guys [or, for that matter, girls] get taken advantage of, big time.
Try being a jerk to the girls you're with, and watch them worship the ground you walk on.
2007-02-22 17:39:08 · answer #8 · answered by sisofphil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gave her the ring and it's hers. You can't get it back unless she gives it to you
It was a gift from you to her
Judge Judy says so
2007-02-22 17:39:23 · answer #9 · answered by Kelly M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When in confusion... Stop
But when you are being confused... Attack
If its yours you should have it back... but when u give it someone (anyone) its no longer yours... can you also ask her the time and love you gave her... Nah! just move on... it will all 'ring' back to you
2007-02-22 17:37:42 · answer #10 · answered by Untouchable 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋