12 years ago I was in love with a girl from Nagaland. Due to some reason I could not get merried with her. We both have enjoyed all and crossed limits of society. In 1997 I left that place and we never conntected each other. In 2005, I posted to Assam and visited my girlfried place and come to know she is married and blassed with two kids. One day, we both enjoyed in absence of her husband. I am also married. Some place in my heart i feed guilt for such relation with my ex girl friend. We both still love each other. please help me out.
2007-02-22 17:23:07 · 17 answers · asked by amru 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What do you truly want? I would recommend staying with your wife! If she is married and you are married, chances are that you won't make it when you guys are married! Good luck!
2007-02-22 17:27:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You had some strong reasons to reject her then which might still be present but which you are overlooking because you are filled with lust for her once again.
The fact that both of you have got married separately indicates that both of you did not consider your affair culminating into marriage.
This post marriage affair will fill you both with a sense of guilt which you will carry to your own marriages and cause disturbances all around. In her case, since she has 2 children it may ruin their future.
In short, this extramarital affair is wrought with failure and unhappiness for too many people now, who will be sucked into the vortex of a cyclonic storm, brewing and into which at least 2 innocent kids are going to get crushed.
Probably your sex-life with your wife does not seem as exciting as with your ex. and has become too monotonous for enjoyment.
Man ins til a bit of FANTASY into it which probably, you are not aware of and see it blossom again.
Maybe, you might have had to do the same after many years of marriage to your ex., too if you had married her then.
2007-02-23 02:11:23 · answer #2 · answered by mcmohan40 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its just matter of sex. Because you also married and after some time person wants change from some point of your mind you r fed up with your wife. It happens not always but for some time. So you just want another companion for your sex and now you have your girlfriend with whom you enjoyed already so get attracted by her very much. On the other side there is same situation with your ex-girlfriend and she also want some new companion fro her sex not for permanent but for short time.This is only attraction and you believe as love but in reality it is just attraction. So I cant tell you any thing but I just try to realise that thing which was true. Now you should enough capable to take decision of your life otherwise ur life is just worthless. OK man best luck.
2007-02-23 01:48:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
stop this now did she encourage such a thing even after two kids why do u want to cheat on your beautiful wife ..i recommend u to watch the movie i guess women in red dress ...do not spoil your life ,future on this when u have somthing special for u ...just an opinion sorry to offend u
2007-02-24 04:03:23 · answer #4 · answered by tamanaahamed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you love someone you care for her more then your self and whatever you did during your stay in nagaland doesn't suggest you either care for her or her 2 children .her family life will be in trauma and your's too. control your emotions get away from that place .respect the dignity of your nad her marriage .
2007-02-23 01:27:52 · answer #5 · answered by Don corleone 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in recent days, in case of adultery by a woman, the man is the culprit. Be careful.
legally it is wrong. Morally, it is wrong. Then why do you want to continue the relation.
You are having a (I suppose) wife. Enjoy family life rather than mental sufferings.
2007-02-23 05:16:51 · answer #6 · answered by RAGHAVAN N 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
After yr marriage y should be sincere to yr wife only.Otherwise it'll affect both of
yr life.how can y able to love yr ex friend.it's not a true love that'swhy you
got guilty.pls terminate that relationship & live happily with yr wife without any
guiltiness.
2007-02-23 02:25:23 · answer #7 · answered by raksha 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very bad. Let it not spoint peaceful marital lives of four (2 couples). All unwed, premarital, extramarital physical sexual relations are not good, resulting in dissatisfied marital lives, AIDS / STD, and births of bastards/ illegitimates. Such sexual relations put spouses in search for more betters, and destroy joyful marital lives usually resulting in divorces. High % of divorces and children of broken families are threat to the peaceful world.
All unwed sexual activities (pre/post/extra marital), homosexual acts, & other perverted sexual acts are specifically forbidden in Islam in clearly written unambiguous words. In Islam, unwed voluntary sexual intercourse also is a great sin and heinous crime against government/society punishable with publicly lashing/ death by pelting stones. However the Indian laws are as follows:
Premarital, extramarital or unwed sexual activities are not barred / prohibited and are no offence in any Indian law. Wife’s sexual intercourse with other/s is also no offence, hence no prosecution or punishment to her. Even her sex partner also cannot be punished, if was unaware of her wedlock or had sex with consent or connivance of her husband. However the police cannot arrest or prosecute him. After divorce also her husband is bound to maintain or pay till she remarries, even if she is permanently / continuously enjoying sex with all other/s. Pre marital sexual experiences (intercourse / coitus) with other/s cannot be a ground to seek divorce under Hindu/Special Marriage Act. Thus a female’s physical sexual relations with persons/s of her choice (with their consent) is not an offence or prohibited / barred in any Indian law and she is at liberty to enjoy SEX freely and fearlessly. A male’s physical sexual relations with any 16+ female (with her consent) is no offence or barred / prohibited in any Indian Law, unless she is in the wedlock of somebody else and is done knowing her wedlock and without her husband’s consent or connivance. Courts are bound to believe that all children born during the wedlock (or within 280 days of court's divorce judgment/ decree) are her husband’s legitimate ones. He is bound to maintain or pay them expenses; till sons are 18+ and daughters are married. Prostitution (commercial sex trade, offering sex for monetary gain) alone is an offence punishable in Indian laws.
2007-02-23 14:35:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is married with children. you are married. You need to butt out and forget her and move on with your life before you mess up your marriage and hers. this is not gonna work out so why make a mess before you find that out.
2007-02-23 01:34:41 · answer #9 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Should you continue? Well you can answer this yourself. Suppose your wife slept with a flame from her past or any other guy for that matter...would it be OK with you if they continue their affair???
2007-02-23 15:46:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋