Why do you think you should marry?

Question

Getting married to someone because they are kind and you owe them gratitude. Maybe because they even saved your life. If you don't marry them they may go over the brink. I don't know what to do.

Answer 1

That's just the point, one SHOULD never marry. Marriage should never be something that HAS to happen in your lfie to make it complete. Wanting to marry someone should come as naturally as breathing. No amount of threats should ever push you to do something you do not truly want. I promise you this much... if he is not threatening you, and if you don't pay attention to the "he'll go over the brink" story - he will find some other girl to tell it to.

People who need to depend on someone more than they need to breathe will find someone else to manipulate. I promise.

So whenever you think about marriage again, remember this:

Never marry someone you can live with... marry someone you can never live without.

Answer 2

You live with the ones you can live with, and marry the ones you can't live without. Marriage for gratitude, or because of blackmail (i.e. or else going over the brink) is not a good reason. Do you really want to share the rest of your life with someone because of those reasons? It's your life. You have to live with the decisions you make. Only you can make yourself happy, no one else can. The same thing applies to everyone.

If it were me, if I loved them and couldn't live without them, I would marry them. If I just owed them gratitude, that is all they would get. I like to think at least 5 years down the road, kids, retirement, and what day to day life would be like with them.

Answer 3

This is blackmail, emotional blackmail. You are not responsible for anyone else. If the person is gonna go over the brink if you don't marry them that is a perfect reason not to marry them. If you do not love the person, then do not do it you will only bring misery to you both. So they saved your life, save up and buy them a really great gift to say thank you and let it go. If they threaten to harm themselve tell someone that might help them but do not submit to the blackmailing threats. kindness and gratitude are not reasons to marry anyone. Don't marry this person, you will be sorry if you do, so don't. he saved your life so don't you go and trash it now.

Answer 4

Personally, I think religious marriages should be between two people and that's that. The state should stay out of it, and not interfere in any way. If you divorce, it's hell. My cousin and her common law husband were together for 15 years. They just split up because he started to get verbally and emotionally abusive. I was there one time. She was sick with bronchitis and very weak. The house was clean. No mess anywhere. He walks in and starts yelling at her "You lazy *****, get off of your fat a55, stop eating bon bons and clean the fvcking house!!!" She is not fat, she was not eating anything (bronchitis gives you a sore throat, I should know, I have it chronically) and again, the house was clean. Men really turn bad after some time, and when they do, you shouldn't give them any avenue of screwing you over, and that includes legally.

Then again, if you know and are absolutely sure a man won't harm you, not just puppy love stuff but somebody you've known for years and know intimately, it's good. I'm getting married to my best friend of 10 years who was there through my divorce. He was there to comfort me when my bones became broken and even testified in court against my husband. I didn't know this, but when I had been sleeping, he took pictures of my wounds and submitted them. I got full custody of my children and the house I inherited from my grandfather.

Answer 5

Gratitude is NOT a reason to marry anyone. Only marry one who shares LOVE with you. One you wish to make a life and family with, for the rest of your life.

Answer 6

marriage is not something you do to say thank you. when you marry someone its because you want to grow old with them you want to know the bad stuff you want to live life to the fulliest. if this person wants to do something stupid beacuse you wouldnt marry him then he is mentally unstable. what kind of life would you then be leading not only a life without true love but a life worried about him all the time. if you say no and the other operson does something stupid its not your fault at all. just hink of it this way he may have saved your life then but you are saving your own life now by saying no. he doesnt own you at all. but if you married him he may think that he does good luck.

Answer 7

Sorry.....all the WRONG reasons. I would give this marriage about four years or less, before it implodes!

You don't OWE someone a marriage to keep them from going over the brink. That malfunction belongs to them NOT YOU.

DON'T let your guilt drive you to do something you WILL regret.

Answer 8

If you really really want to marry, just be cautious of both of yous future. If you don't love him...don't marry...you won't be happy...and explain to him, he might understand and probaly won't go over the brink...

Answer 9

you should never have to feel that you have to marry someone just because they were their for you, you will be messing up not only your life but the other persons too, because the love isn't their, you don't owe anybody anything, if they helped you its because they wanted to and not because they expected something in return only your trust and friendship. don't make your life miserable just to please someone else,

Answer 10

marriage i think is for the betterment of both parties involved. knowing that sacrifice and committment will work for both, and that compromise is truly a welcome prospect.