In an office how to deal a senior who is manipulative, aggressive, bullish ?

Question

I work in a company for the past 8 Yrs, but there is no growth i can attribute it to the poor corporate culture prevailing in the company. Apart from this there is a senior who is always narrow minded, aggressive, manipulative and thinks about only his growth.

Answer 1

Definitely look for another job. Good luck!


Productive ways to deal with your difficult coworker:

* Start out by examining yourself. Are you sure that the other person is really the problem and that you're not overreacting? Have you always experienced difficulty with the same type of person or actions? Does a pattern exist for you in your interaction with coworkers? Do you recognize that you have hot buttons that are easily pushed? (We all do, you know.) Always start with self-examination to determine that the object of your attention really is a difficult person’s actions.


* Explore what you are experiencing with a trusted friend or colleague. Brainstorm ways to address the situation. When you are the object of an attack, or your boss appears to support the dysfunctional actions of a coworker, it is often difficult to objectively assess your options.
Anger, pain, humiliation, fear and concern about making the situation worse are legitimate emotions.

Pay attention to the unspoken agreement you create when you solicit another’s assistance. You are committing to act unless you agree actions will only hurt the situation. Otherwise, you risk becoming a whiner or complainer in the eyes of your colleague.


* Approach the person with whom you are having the problem for a private discussion. Talk to them about what you are experiencing in “I” messages. (Using “I” messages is a communication approach that focuses on your experience of the situation rather than on attacking or accusing the other person.) You can also explain to your coworker the impact of their actions on you.

Be pleasant and agreeable as you talk with the other person. They may not be aware of the impact of their words or actions on you. They may be learning about their impact on you for the first time. Or, they may have to consider and confront a pattern in their own interaction with people. Worst case? They may know their impact on you and deny it or try to explain it away. Unfortunately, some difficult people just don’t care. During the discussion, attempt to reach agreement about positive and supportive actions going forward.


* Follow up after the initial discussion. Has the behavior changed? Gotten better? Or worse? Determine whether a follow-up discussion is needed. Determine whether a follow-up discussion will have any impact. Decide if you want to continue to confront the difficult person by yourself. Become a peacemaker. (Decide how badly you want to make peace with the other person and how much you want your current job. Determine whether you have experienced a pattern of support from your boss.) If you answer, “yes,” to these questions, hold another discussion. If not, escalate and move to the next idea.


* You can confront your difficult coworker’s behavior publicly. Deal with the person with gentle humor or slight sarcasm. Or, make an exaggerated physical gesture – no, not that one – such as a salute or place your hand over your heart to indicate a serious wounding.

You can also tell the difficult person that you’d like them to consider important history in their decision making or similar words expressed positively, depending on the subject. Direct confrontation does work well for some people in some situations. I don’t think it works to ask the person to stop doing what they’re doing, publicly, but you can employ more positive confrontational tactics. Their success for you will depend on your ability to pull them off. Each of us is not spur-of-the-moment funny, but if you are, you can use the humor well with difficult coworkers.

Want five more tips? Fleeing is definitely an option.

Answer 2

I would change jobs. Obviously, the senior is the problem with the company having no growth. Anything you encounter in life takes on the characteristics of the leader. In this case, since the senior has poor leadership skills, the company isn't growing. It appears they're stuck in an era other than 2007!

Life is too short to have to deal with this kind of stuff! It's up to the individual to pick the battles they want to fight in life, and to determine if the hill they're fighting the battle on is the hill they want to die on!

Move on to bigger and better things, and do it for yourself; eight years is plenty long enough to give something a chance.

Answer 3

Write everything down,
Date
Time
Incidence
witnesses,
and If a complaint was put in,
what was the outcome.

Keep this In a secure place in your home.

In my job I put up with alot of crap, but other people
do to.

"Just show me the money" - Jerry McGuire

NOTE: You can't film a person at your place of work.

1. It's not your home.

To do that would be an Invasion of privacy, a Lawsuit in
the making.

Answer 4

Very simple set up a hidden video camera and get him in the action of being disrespectfull to anyone .There are laws out there to protect employees from suck people who "power trip" once you have documentation .bring this to the people at the labour board and put in for a personal claim and have him charged and also get a law suit started and make yourself some money..These type of people have been getting away with this kind of behavior for many years and now days employees all around the country are starting to stand up against it.so just join the battle and do your part.you won't regret it

Answer 5

Smile a lot and say yassir. It might piss him off. It sounds like at home his mommy or his wife is calling all the shots so he takes it out at the office. Pity him.

Answer 6

Rah Rah Ree kick him in the knee
Rah Rah Rass Kick him in the....uh....other knee

Or quit

or do both

If you want to stay in the place, think possitivley. Dont let the man run you down.

Answer 7

Change a new job ..... He is a senior and there is nothing much you can do about it.

Answer 8

punch him in the junk