At what age does a man mature mentally?

Question

This is a very sophisticated question. I am 20 and I sometimes think I am very intellingent in certain areas, but at times, I seem to be very inexperienced in other areas of my life. And sometimes I dont even care about how much I know about life? What is the normal age for a man to know what his life is all about, excluding career and academic goals. So, I guess that would include his personal life and relationships with others. I sometimes think I am a know it all and then things come up that I have to seek guidance.

Answer 1

About 10 minutes before death..bada boom!
But seriously folks, I don't know many men in their 60s (my Dad's age) who are as mature as the average 30 year old woman. Some of the reason for this is nature--men have other stuff on their minds than seeking self-knowledge--and some is nurture--males are usualy coddled by the Moms, then later on, their GFs, then their Wives.
Men get strokes mostly for what they do & how much they earn, not for how evolved they become.

Answer 2

It's a continual search. Life is an eternal learning experience; you always grow. What fun...

Though the brain matures, on average, after 25 years, connections are still being made. Age is only partially responsible for emotional and mental maturity. Your openness, willingness to learn, reflect, and engage in new, difficult and/or fun experiences matters equally. That said, it's always a little different from man to man. Some men have values and relationships that are shallow and childish...

Don't be frustrated when you encounter situations wherein your sense of all-knowing is challenged. It's a very healthy thing. That way, you know that you're always advancing, there's more to life, you're not stagnating, and you won't get bored.

I think it's wonderful when I'm reminded that I'm not alone, that I can't do it alone, and I need other people to help me; we all need guidance at some point, we do need each other. Esse est co-esse. To exist is to co-exist. And to live is to learn. Hmm...

Answer 3

Some men never mature mentally. You always hear of men who can't atke things seriously who are 50 years old? Well some men just can't. I believe men should start to mature mentally by the time they have come out of college. Obviously many don't but from a psychological standpoint this is a reasonable time to start taking responsibility. You are now out in the real world at a job, you have graduated from college and should be financially independent and NOT dependent on your parents. Some men mature waaay before this and get a headstart...and some never do at all, or not until very late.

Answer 4

I noticed that in asking this question, you inadvertantly set yourself up for the cracks on men ever being mature, coming from women (And in many cases, their cracks are quite warranted) but I'd like to make a valid point in your favor, sweetie...

Just the fact that you are aware of these things, and that you admit to needing to seek advice in some instances, which shows your concern and respect for the given situation, shows that you (To me, anyway...) seem QUITE mature for a 20 year-young male!

Of course you go through phases where it seems you don't even care. I don't know too many 20 yr olds who didn't... male OR female. Just remember that life is all about continually learning, and keep that open mind and heart that most men don't seem to have, allowing you to admit truth and seek out better answers, dear, and I think you'll be fine!

I'm sure most women on here commenting on the male maturity level would ALL agree that most men they know would have never even posted the question you now ask!

You're doing just fine, sweetie... chin up!

Answer 5

I'm 63 and can't answer that question.
I thought I had i pretty much "altogether" until someone from my past entered my life 40 years later, then I very quickly discovered walls I had built to mask my childhood. I didn't even understand my childish and mixed responses to this person, she awakened something that I was not even aware of, my own past.

I didn't take long for me to revert to childhood thinking and responses, my past as a child was poisoned with hatred and unforgiveness, mainly because I held guilt from not forgiving others deep inside me.

So it depends "I think" on really knowing who you are "with" any walls formed for self protection from the past "down", and then facing the facts and sucessfully dealing and resolving them, then "probably" true maturity is reached, at least as much as a "man" can because I think all men think a bit young despite their age or maturity. Hope you can understand this, sometimes I don't. "Just forgive others" you'll be a better, more mature and understanding person "for others".

Answer 6

Life's experiences mature a person, man or woman. Some go through a lot at a young age and are, therefore, very mature at a very early age.

If you lead a sheltered and narrow life you will mature at a later date but eventually it will happen.

Answer 7

This is maturity: To be able to stick with a job until it's
finished; to do one's duty without being supervised; to be
able to carry money without spending it; and to be able to
bear an injustice without wanting to get even.

Also:
TRAITS OF A MATURE, SELF-ACTUALIZING PERSON
Specific traits of a mature, self-actualizing person

They see reality, and knowing "the facts are friendly," they accept reality more than most people. They see through phoniness, deception, and "games"--and avoid them. They cope with problems, rather than avoid them.

They accept themselves and others; thus, they can honestly self-disclose and forgive others' shortcomings.

They are spontaneous with their ideas, feelings, and actions, being genuine and confident.

They focus on solving problems but their "problems" tend to be outside themselves. For instance, they often have a "mission" that may be difficult to accomplish but gives excitement, challenge, and purpose to their lives.

They enjoy privacy, withdrawing sometimes to be free to have their own thoughts. Occasionally, they may have mystical experiences in which they become part of all mankind or of nature.

They resist culturally prescribed roles, e.g. masculine or feminine. They resent unfairness caused by social roles and prejudice. They insist on thinking for themselves and completing their mission, even in the face of social criticism.

They enjoy and appreciate the commonplace, the little things in life--a rose, a baby, an idea, a considerate comment, a meal, a loving touch, etc.

They feel a kinship, a closeness, a warmth, a concern for every human being.

They are close to a few people, although not always popular. They can live intimately and love.

They do not judge others on the basis of stereotypes, like sex, age, race, or religion, but rather as individuals.

They have a strong self-generated code of ethics--a sense of right and wrong. Their values may not be conventional but they do guide their lives.

They are creative and do things differently, not in rebellion but for the joy of being original and talented. They are clever, even in their ability to be amused instead of angered by human foibles.

It is good to hear someone your age ask this type of question. You WILL go far in life. Good Luck!

Answer 8

In route to the Pearly Gates.

Answer 9

You will know how silly you sound in a few years -- some people never grow... they are the ones that suffer in life.

Answer 10

When he encounter with something that is big enough to change his way of thinking and living, to some ppl, it's death.