Four years I kid and alot of time together taking alot of stuff from her why wont I leave?

Question

Lets face it im in love mabey not with the best person in the world but everyone has problems when you try your best to love some one but other problems get in the wy like Drinking, thier past,etc and the person will not dealing with relaity of life trying to get something. what do you do ive tryed im not perfect but the fear of the other side or being lonley to me is scary my cousin told me i not loving myself by taking the stuff I put up with. the bottom line is do and will people change and how long should I alter my life to wait. Im tired but we have a kid I want to rasise my kid full time like a family.................

Answer 1

Sounds like a lonely life sometimes life can be real scary but often times the hard things in life make us stronger define who we are maybe its easyer for you to stay in this relationship out of fear of being alone i hope one day soon for your sake and your childs sake you make a choice that will bring you happiness and love and live the life that you deserve if your having a hard time deciding what to do what if you had only a year to live what would you do then? also if you can afford it go for counseling even if its just for you good luck

Answer 2

I kind of know how you feel...I have a boyfriend who everyone thinks is not good enough for me and he has problems and my family hates him and it just goes on and on and sometimes I wonder what am I doing to myself, but I do love him, and thats what you have to really decide...is loving this person worth the way that everything is going on makes you feel? I know that after so long its so scarey to be without that person, but if youre not happy now then i dont know, maybe you wouldnt feel so lonley because you wouldnt have that stress. About having a kid and wanting to raise your kid full time, i think thats wonderful and i dont have any kids so i dont know what to say about that, but I hope i was of some help, sorry if i wasnt.