hello, i am getting married to a girl in a couple of month. but i have some suspicions about her loyalty. if i get married with these doubts,it is going to ruin my marital life later.. how should i handle this situation?
if i tell her won't it make her angry.? and what is the surity that she would tell me the truth? what would be the best way to know it all. plz.... i am really depressed...
2007-02-22 16:50:03 · 8 answers · asked by alone in 6billion 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Trust is the foundation of any relationship. How can you marry someone you don't trust??? Just sit with her and tell her that before marriage it would be nice to place all the cards on the table. That is to say, have a 'truth session.' That is she has to tell you everything regarding her past i.e. relationships, misdeeds, health problems, crimes etc. and you tell her yours...come to think of it you could go first. It would be even better if you guys could write it down and exchange papers. If things are acceptable all round then the papers should be burnt and the past destroyed. This way you guys start with a clean slate. This I believe is better than asking her outright. Best of luck.
2007-02-22 17:15:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have those kinds of suspicions, talk to her about it. Don't go behind her back. If she gets angry, she gets angry. There is no real way to know the truth, that is why marriage is based on trust, and faith in your partner, if you don't have it, don't get married. It would be the best thing for the both of you.
2007-02-22 16:56:44 · answer #2 · answered by darkpoet3000 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hon if you are questioning something now that is major you need to resolve those issues before you get married.
Marriage is a very big commitment and Trust is major, issue here.
If in doubt toss her out....... Now you don't want to do that. So now before you are even married you will learn how to deal with conflict. If you are feeling she will be angry ~ deal with this now...
You need to have clear heart before you get married....
2007-02-22 18:04:00 · answer #3 · answered by MissChatea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see----you are planning on marrying her in a couple of months. I would suggest that you sit down with her, and have an open talk with her. Let her know of your concerns, and where they may have come from. She may get angry, but if she is being honest, , that is one. thing. On how can you tell if she is being honest? Look into her eyes as she talks with you. Ask some of her friends. Have you had premarital counseling? Like at your church? I wish you the best. Take care.
2007-02-22 17:02:39 · answer #4 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You also may be paranoid.
No one can assure you that your fiance will be absolutely, 100% loyal to you for your whole life. Neither can you assure her that you will, either.
Life is a bit of crap shoot. You get to know your intended as best as you can through the engagement period. If you find serious flaws, incompatibilities, or reasons to suspect infidelity, then call it off. However, if you are just suspicious by nature, then the problem is YOU. Get yourself straightened out before you take on the responsibility of marriage.
2007-02-22 17:09:21 · answer #5 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats what love in a marriage is all about. You love her enough to trust that she would stay by your side. That she would commit herself to you for the rest of her life just as you commit yourself to her. If your not sure that you can trust her then hold back on the wedding. If you really need conformation, ask her. It may make her mad that you question her, but its better to know before you say "I do". Good luck.
2007-02-22 16:56:26 · answer #6 · answered by Samantha 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you have those kinds of doubts about your soon to be wife, you have no business marrying her. That said, you have to talk to her about it or catch her at it!
2007-02-22 16:56:29 · answer #7 · answered by Momma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you question her loyalty,then you must not trust her.and if you don't trust her,,,she should leave you cause,you're the one with the problem!
2007-02-22 17:06:35 · answer #8 · answered by jgmafb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋