We broke up a month ago. We've been making nice and emailing. We work at the same place, but on oposing shifts until now. I'm going back to her shift, and we're going to be practically elbow-to-elbow all day. Overtly, we get along fine, but inside, I'm still dealing with a lot of anger over the break up. We were good friends before we got together; I want that again. I'm afraid, however, that my current resentment will show through. She's very perceptive. I'm going to be a good boy, of course. We both NEED this job. Any tips you can offer for dealing with this in my spirit would be helpful. Thanks!
2007-02-22 16:45:24 · 9 answers · asked by aquaman2964 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ugh....I've been through this too. It's hard but you can do it. Just try not to think about her on a personal level anymore. She's your ex for a really good reason so remember why it didn't work out. Since you're seeing her everyday, your anger will come out at first but then it will start to fade a bit. The best advice is to fake it til you make it. Act friendly, but not overly friendly. Don't hang out with her unless you have to and keep everything professional even if she brings up personal stuff. If she calls you out for being angry or anything, deny deny deny and walk off. Don't let her know you're still angry over this and don't talk it out unless you want her back. Take this as a huge lesson not to date anyone at work again! lol It's always uncomfortable and just way too much trouble.
2007-02-22 17:10:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-06 01:51:44 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have the perfect solution to your situation.Give your anger to God to deal with.He knows best what to do with it.I gave mine to him a long time ago and mostly all I do now is laugh.Ask him to take it away and you want it to leave you alone and he'l do it.Anger is self defeating and poisenous to your soul,so get rid of it or one day it might cause you to do something you'l later regret.Just to let you know,your emotions are a direct result of what you think about.Do not let your emotions dictate to you what you should do or how you should think.Satan is able to manipulate your emotions so if your the type of person who acts according to how they 'feel' satan can make you do just about anything he wants just by making you feel a certain way.Instead turn it around and only feel according to what you think.Satan cannot manipulate you through intellect only through feeling and emotions.So always think first then feel.
2007-02-22 17:06:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was/am in the same situation. But my ex is violent and abusive, to himself and me and others at work. I tried being friends with him, but he got pissed because I didn't' focus 100% of my attention on him. If I ignored him, he got pissed about it. There were days that if we were in the same room he was angry and I was told by other co-workers that on my off days (or if I left for lunch) he was angry if I wasn't there. I was in a no win situation. Now I am forced to put in for a transfer to a whole new store, because it has turned into harassment and our manager told me that I would get fired (even though I am on the receiving end). If you are dealing with your own anger, you may need to wait to change to her shift. Either that or completely focus on other co-workers. Each situation is different. Each breakup is different. You may surprise yourself and handle it just fine. Good luck.
2007-02-22 17:48:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had that problem when I worked Armed Forces Radio in Spain. I slept happily with this American Navy woman for a month and she suddenly tells me she's married to some loser drug user in Cali and she won't divorce him. Then I had to be there every weekend day with her for 18 months. It was like pulling teeth.
Bottom line: You had your goodies with a lady in the workplace, and now you have to deal with it. Don't talk to her if you can help it, and be ready to transfer if you can't keep it civil.
2007-02-22 16:54:11 · answer #5 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally ignore her. Don't even make eye contact with her unless you have too. If she makes a remark at you pretend you didn't even hear it.
Try to find another woman there that you can flirt/become friends with and try to do when you know she is in the area. But don't do it only when she is around.
2007-02-22 16:50:57 · answer #6 · answered by Jackel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treat her just like you would anybody else, but
don't show her any special attention, positive
or negative. Focus on your work. Don't allow
fellow employees to get into the drama.
Give it time. Friendship will return....but
not overnight. Remember, she still is dealing
with issues too.
2007-02-22 17:00:46 · answer #7 · answered by Northwest Womps 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want her back pursue her,if you dont let her go and try to begin comprehending that yyou are no longer attached and you can do whatever the hell you want
2007-02-22 16:56:14 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your just have to forget it . let it go. let that madness go.and let GOD work it out for you
2007-02-22 16:53:33 · answer #9 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋