i just broke up with my 26yr old ex of 3 yrs cos i found his cheating behind my back with a colleague of his who's 18yrs old. we ended it after a painful arguement. he's still staying with me till my housemates are back cos my place is not really that safe for me to stay alone in. my problem is last nite after he came back from his date with his gf (celebrating their 1st anniversary together - and we just broke up 5 days ago!) we had sex. i feel so bad! i didnt know wat i was doing. it was great at first but now i feel it was a stupid thing to do. i feel pity of myself and his gf. so im asking should i warn the girl or just let her find out for herself. cos this is not the first time he cheated on her with me. like i said we only recently broke up. HELP ME...
2007-02-22 16:43:11 · 17 answers · asked by ZaZa b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i just broke up with my 26yr old ex of 3 yrs cos i found his cheating behind my back with a colleague of his who's 18yrs old. we ended it after a painful arguement. he's still staying with me till my housemates are back cos my place is not really that safe for me to stay alone in. my problem is last nite after he came back from his date with his gf (celebrating their 1st anniversary together - and we just broke up 5 days ago!) we had sex. i feel so bad! i didnt know wat i was doing. it was great at first but now i feel it was a stupid thing to do. i feel pity of myself and his gf. so im asking should i warn the girl or just let her find out for herself. cos this is not the first time he cheated on her with me. like i said we only recently broke up. HELP ME... owh btw i only found out he was with his new gf today., from his best friend. and she doesnt know that he's staying with me.
2007-02-22 16:54:54 · update #1
Did the gf not notice he was living with a girl? LoL. Anyways, i think the next time he arrives home/brings his date over, you should meet them at the door with a "Hi hun!, i'm so glad youre home".
If she doesnt come around, then an annonymous email is best. That way she cant say "ah well its the ex girlfriend, of COURSE shes going to say negative things about him"
Also, he needs to leave your house, pronto. There will be NO healing while hes still there, and i'm sure you could find a roommate. If not a nice "I own a gun and am not afraid to use it" sign, some dead bolts & a watch dog will suit your needs
Good Luck hun, men these days...
2007-02-22 16:56:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell the other girl because she will just accuse you of being the jealous ex. Let her find out the hard way she obviously knew he was with you and didn't think twice about being with him behind your back so why would you be nice to this girl, it's her own fault once a dog always a dog.
2007-02-22 16:49:58 · answer #2 · answered by jimmy_chick78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is never going to just be with one girl,he cheated on you now he cheating on the other girl. If you were to get back with him could you ever trust him,I do not think so,I know I wouldnt. I had a boyfried like this and went through the same kinda thing,to this day he still cheats on all his girlfriends. He will just break your heart again.
2007-02-22 16:50:01 · answer #3 · answered by CAROL S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all ..you did know what you were doing , you claim you didn't ..but that is BS... secondly he cheated with her on you , he cheated on her with you so you are even ...... either you tell her or you don't ... I would let her know however that he still lives with you , and as far as him , he is a cheater and will always be a cheater .....you can either keep feeding his desire to cheat (( after all most men do want two women either the same time or separately)) I have been faithful to mine for 10.5 years but if she has a friend she wants to see me with I love her enough to do as she wishes ((except one of her friends ooh gross!! **gives me chills to even think that **)) either feed his desire or leave him alone it is that simple , it is about what you want ..he is already getting what he wants ((or it seems like))................
2007-02-22 17:15:52 · answer #4 · answered by Insensitively Honest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not the first time he cheated on his gf with u?? why do u go back there, do u get jealous then sleep with him? ur only solution is to get rid of this guy, get another guy to stay with u, &talk to his gf, if will be better on your conscious, if she ignores u, then there was no harm done, u did ur bit then move on.
2007-02-22 16:50:11 · answer #5 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u shouldn't tell her because u kept leading him on to let him know that it was ok for him to have sex with u. if u all are broken up then thats the way it should be, but it seems like to me thar u still want one another. yall need to sit down and figure out what yall want.
2007-02-22 17:02:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is the matter with u? are you doing this to revenge?
kick him out of your house and let the poor young girl know about it. it's not to brag about the affair BUT to warn her about what a bastard your ex is. does she know he's living with u at the moment?
do you know you are being used as a sex object by your ex-bf? he thinks he can do this to you cos you never say no.
no matter what is your intention of having sex with your ex, its time for you to get him out of your life.
and get yourself a life. : )
2007-02-22 16:51:32 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just act like he's your friend. Forget about the past love and all the stuff. Just go through like you know him as your brother's best friend.
2016-03-29 08:13:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey why do give a damn about her???? do you honestly believe she didn't know he had a girlfriend? she's 18... let her figure it out for herself..
and don't you dare feel bad! you have no responsibility to anyone but yourself anymore... however i wouldn't suggest going there again with him - he's scum, get out as soon as you can.
2007-02-22 16:52:07 · answer #9 · answered by StockRdHappy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys want to sleep with any Tom Dick and Harry when u find it convinient and than regret about it - stupid or what?
2007-02-22 16:49:01 · answer #10 · answered by happy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋