im pregnant how do i get my boyfriend to be more involved?

Answer 1

I don't know with a username like that I'm sure he'll be back

Answer 2

That's a tough one to answer. It may well be that he's still in shock and just trying to digest the information. But there are several things that spring to my mind.

One scenario may be that he is there over in his corner, assuming he IS involved, and you're in your corner getting angry and frustated because he's not being as involved as you would like him to be, and the two of you just haven't communicated your expectations to each other effectively. So he may simply have no idea.

Another scenario may be that he wants to be be more involved and just doesn't want to tread on your toes - maybe you think you have given him "hints" about what you'd like him to do but haven't made it clear, or maybe you are coming across as completely capable and in charge, so he doesn't want to get in the way.

Or maybe you might have to face the possibility that he doesn't want to be involved, sad as that may be. In this case there's not a whole lot you can actually do to force him to be interested, the best you can do is keep the door open - invite him to doctors appointments, let him know how you are going, let him know about milestones in the pregnancy, like when you feel the baby move, talk to him about your birth plan - just keep communicating with him, and stay positive and "no pressure" about it.

In any case my love you need to sit down and have a talk to him about this so you're both on the same page - he understands your expectations, you understand his, and hopefully you can reach a compromise.

Best of luck.

Answer 3

Make him come to your doctor's appointments. Make sure he's there to hear the heartbeat, and see the ultrasound. Make sure he takes you for all your blood work.
When you're about half way through the pregnancy, sign up for a prenatal class. They are great for first time parents.
Don't get too caught up in picking names or buying baby furniture yet.... wait until he has adjusted to the idea of a baby.

Answer 4

Include him in as many doctors appointments you can especially when you find out the sex. I can't tell you the excitement my hubby felt when we heard our babies heartbeat for the first time. *LOL* He laughed and said hey the babies heartbeat is louder than the last time. Let your hubby feel the first movements for the first time. He may also touch your stomach alot more. My hubby would touch my stomach (in the first part because I laid on my back alot) when he was asleep because even though he can't yet feel our baby knew there was our child growing. Include him in as much of the planning you can such as picking out a (gag me) 49ers jacket when you hate them and get you one of the ones you like. *LOL* That is mostly referring to me, but you get the drift. It's hard for a man sometimes because he can't be in those moments of feeling first time flutters of baby having first hiccups in the belly. Congrats on your pregnancy. The best thing is just include him in as many things as you can. Pick out names together and take him with you when you go shopping for the baby.

17 weeks pregnant with first.

Answer 5

Involved how? There's not a whole lot he can do, pregnancy-wise. Do you just mean showing interest? Being supportive of you? Going with you to the doctor? I'd say try asking him.

Answer 6

Ask him, does he want a boy or girl, what kind of names does he like, what should we get for the baby? Stuff like that, maybe he'll start getting excited about it. He may still be in shock. Give him time too.

Answer 7

Tell him if he don't start doing stuff for both you and the baby you are going to take out child support on him!!!!! That will wake him up

Answer 8

Take him along to the doctor, ultrasounds, baby shopping etc. When the baby kicks, make him feel it.

Answer 9

Marry him.

Answer 10

dont let on that youre pregnant...that or bungee his ankle...