ok i am about to get married and i really love him but i found out some rumors of girls that he has been with before me and (no offense) but he defiently had his beer goggles on. and it is bugging the crap out of me. he has admitted to it and i shouldn't care like i do. it's like it grouses me out so bad. should i feel like this it was way before we ever even met..........
2007-02-22 16:05:34 · 10 answers · asked by britt8smiles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's natural for you to feel upset and disgusted because he has been with these girls before. However these girls are a part of his past - and there's a reason they didn't make it to his future.
If anybody, including him, tries to bring the topic up politely change the subject.
If you end the relationship because of the past you'll probably regret it. Let him know how you feel about this situation and solve it together.
2007-02-22 16:10:11 · answer #1 · answered by Laurie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you are considering getting married, let's put all the cards on the table( both of you) realize that if things happened before you were exclusive they probably shouldn't have any barring. If there are things you just can't get passed it's probably better to figure it out before you get married, People get into relationships for many different reasons, looks shouldn't be the primary reason. Marriage should be a wonderful experience, not a battle.
2007-02-23 00:19:45 · answer #2 · answered by Dodie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, people change. He obviously has too. You can't base your current relationship in anyway to his past girlfriends. If it's really love that you two have, then don't let your mind develop last minute concepts before you two commit yourself to each other. Trust in your feelings that you know well. They never steer you wrong. And besides, maybe you were the angel that brought him to his mental (and physical) senses. Maybe he was a bit confused, and by being with him, you helped him sort out that confusion. In that case, be proud and happy :)
But above all else, just tell him about it. If your engaged you must be incredibly comfortable with each other. Communication is the keystone for sure.
2007-02-23 00:14:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes its hard not to think of it and whether he has any feelings left for these girls or will he ever have any more relationship with them. Firstly, he is honest to tell u that he did had something with them, so that's good. Most guys will just deny it. I know that as gals we are sensitive but if u have made up yr mind to marry him, try to let things ease out. As the saying goes" time will heal all wounds" so mayb it will not bug you in time to come.. its easier said than done but give it a try... wish u best of luck and take care...
2007-02-23 00:13:58 · answer #4 · answered by The Babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the most important question to ask is do you love him and want to be his wife? if you do then let the past go, if you dont it will eat at you and you wont be able to look at him with respect..... do you want to live in the past or the present? does he still talk to those women who he was with before? if not, then i wouldnt worry
2007-02-23 00:10:58 · answer #5 · answered by jim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand you if you felt this way, for reasons of him seeing them while he was with you, but you should not let it get to you now. He is with you now and those girls are behind him. It would not be fair, if he judged you on your ex. Congrats.
2007-02-23 00:11:55 · answer #6 · answered by Adriels Mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you believe in him....... you need to talk to him.
getting married to someone you don't trust
someone you don't communicate to...
and someone you trust other gossip over him.
would say..... get counseling.... talk and
be sure. marrying someone you doubt like this.....
why..... so you can bring children in to a world wjere
a mom doesn't trust a husband.
2007-02-23 00:10:05 · answer #7 · answered by VK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO YOU LOVE ME FOR BEING HIM ARE YOU WILLING TO WORK WITH HIM OR LET HIM KNOW BEFORE WE ALL GET MARRIED BYE TAKE CARE.
P.S. IF YOU LOVE HIM WORK AT IT WITH HIM BECAUSE HE MIGHT SEE THINGS ABOUT YOU TOO SO JUST TRY.
2007-02-23 00:23:17 · answer #8 · answered by Chocolate34 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohhhhhhhhh
get over it
or cancel the wedding
you will have other fish to fry once your married.
marriage is tough. and the sex dwindles
2007-02-23 00:10:30 · answer #9 · answered by DH 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't matter who he was with before you met him.
Ppl should have kept their mouths shut though.This is why you don't have sex before marriage!
2007-02-23 00:10:30 · answer #10 · answered by Frogmama2007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋