If you were 25, and a 45 yr. old married man wanted to take you to lunch sometime, would you be suspicious?

Question

I asked this question earlier, but I deleted. Sorry I asked it wrong before.

Or if he offered to help you do something like find a job and he wanted you to stop by his office.

Answer 1

DON'T DO IT.
He just wants to take advantage of you.

Answer 2

Suspicious of what? His intentions? His motivation? His prurient interests?

Of course you should. But, it could also just be an honest social invitation. It's not like you are going to a private place away from the public. As long as you meet for lunch (he doesn't pick you up), you are in control of everything.

Women need to constantly be on guard. In this particular situation, my guess would be that you will know very soon into the lunch what's going on. At the first sign or suggestion of something happening that you don't want to happen, back off and create distance. Otherwise, have a nice lunch.

Answer 3

I wouldn't be suspicious, but wary. If it was only as a friendly thing, it's fine. The age isn't a bother my other half is 20 years older than me, but it doesn't mean he's a pervert. The fact the man's married is what should ring alarm bells for you. Just make sure, from the very beginning, you state your intentions and what you are/arn't interested in gaining from this friendship. Good luck!

Answer 4

Yes. He wants to get to know you on a more personal level. Don't waste your time seeking his offers for help. He will expect something in return. There are a lot of older men seeking younger women and younger women seeking older men. It isn't unusual but kind of bizarre considering that he is old enough to be the 25 year olds dad!!!!

Answer 5

Well, it depends. Do you get the impression that he really wants to be your mentor? Do you talk about career related topics only or is that just a small part of your conversation? I would certainly be suspicious. And I have had men 30 yrs older than me hit on me relentlessly. Even though it's alsmot unbelieveable...I think "who do you think you are?! You've got to be kidding!" But they're not!!!!!

Answer 6

when a man gets married there are certain things he just aint supposed to do no more, and that is being around attractive young girls and trying to help them inorder to get something in return.
he is not right,do not help him ruin his marrieage because whatever goes around comes around,some woman will do the same to you.
if he was single it would be different but if he's married he shouldnt even be doing all of that...
a married man,doing something innocently would've told you to contact his wife and he wouldve fed all the information through her that way there will be no mistake, 'he'd make it clear that all he wants to do is help you.
this is how it starts,then when something else happens your going to be like "it just happend" when it actually didn't. what business dou you have to be with a married man,alone,without his wife. NONE. and it's the same with him.
and if you let him help you find anuthing,he's going to try to use that in guilting you to doing what he wants you to do.
tell him no thanx..
and if he doesnt leave you alone you tell him,you'll make it known to his wife that he's still trying to get his groove on,on the side.

Answer 7

Depends on the circumstance. Is he your boss and he wants to give you feedback away from the office.
If it's someone looking for a relationship I would say avoid it (married or not)
hen you are 45 and he's retiring it would be a difficult relationship
Even worse your 50 and want to party he's 70 wants to be in bed by 9PM

Answer 8

Yes because most older men really enjoy anal sex. They say at that age is when a man starts to realize that the anus is much tighter than the vagina which leads to better orgasm's. So be very careful he might slip something in your drink and you will probably wake up unable crap pain free for a couple of days.

Answer 9

Yes. It is suspicious. A man when he asks any woman to dine with him, or to go for lunch, it means that he is interested in doing sex with the woman. This is quite natural and no one should feel anything except pleasure of sex instinct. Sex is a very potent feeling and man and woman submit before this instinct. take care.

Answer 10

Yeah, he's taking a little too much interest in you. I used to have that prob. sometimes when I was single too. Come right out and tell him you would rather not, that you are not comfortable. If he still pushes then you know he's trouble. Then you needn't be nice about it. Unless you want to get involved. But I don't recommend it. It will only bring heartache.

Answer 11

He might find you attractive and he might want to take you out but he is old enough to be your father. He could be going through a midlife crisis and wants to be with a younger woman in order to feel younger himself. You are still so very young and have different taste in music and such.