Hi, I am 21 my partner is 27, we are planning on getting married in a few years. We have been living together for 1.5 years. We are both in the entertainment industry and make a lot of money, so finances is not an issue at all. We own two beautiful houses, a business and have been travelling with work for the past two years so we have lived in different countries and have got the travel bug out of our system! Most people in my industry wait for many years to have children, most having them after 30, however I am very very keen to start a family. I have been told that having kids will affect my career significantly and I know how lucky I am to be doing what I am so I guess you could say i am feeling a little torn.....what do you guys think? Thankyou
2007-02-22 15:30:22 · 10 answers · asked by mary d 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Being a proud parent I can say don't have children until you are ready for your life to be altered drastically. Children(if you raise them the conventional way) will dictate your way of life even after they are old enough to take care of themselves. It is a great step to take while you are young enough to enjoy them, but be ready to leave behind the life you have now to begin one that is entirely different in your attitude and free time. My parents told me that too, but I didn't find out they were right until I had kids myself.
2007-02-22 15:40:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide what is more important to you. Family or career. You can have both, but if you decide career is more important, right now is not the time to have kids. If family is, then you can start anytime. If you go for the family, you can still spend good, quality time with your kids...and since you are financially set, you can even wait to go back to work when the kids are in school. Children will only affect your career if you let it. If you are "very keen to start a family" then don't let others make that decision for you. They are not the ones who will be raising those kids, nor are they the ones that at 45 or 50 that will be thinking of those "could haves" and "should haves" when you have no kids because you waited too long. Don't let others make that kind of decision for you. That is between you and your partner...no one else.
2007-02-23 02:04:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's self-indulgent to have a child if you're not prepared to make that child a priority. If you're an entertainer, you most likely trvel a lot. How many show biz families get broken up? Much more than the national average. Why? Because you show folk don't have the time to invest in the family. It's not a slam against show folk; it's just the nature of the beast. I'm an amateur entertainer and every time I take on a play, my family has to sacrifice. It's not fair to them. The entertainment industry is very demanding. I guess it's a matter of opinion whether or not you're all compensated appropriately, but to me, no amount of money could justify my not being as much a part of my kids' lives as humanly possible.
2007-02-23 00:08:53 · answer #3 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just know that Children CHANGE you life considerably. They become (as they should be) your number one priority. I am not saying you can't work, but know that traveling for work for a week at a time will most likely not be possible (unless you are planning on taking kids with you). And if your response is well a nanny/babysitter/family member can watch them most of the time, you aren't ready yet.
I work full time (and then some) but my children come first. For example if I have a big project due, I might work a little late then go home and am totally devoted to my children until bed time, and then work more from home. If this means I don't sit down with my work until 10 or 11 pm so be it.
Good luck, children are so worth it!
2007-02-22 23:52:49 · answer #4 · answered by Cheryl F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a big believer in having children no sooner than 2 years after you get married.
It takes at least that long to get the "feel" of the marriage. Children are truly a blessing....however they change the whole dynamics of a marriage so it's best to make sure the marriage is as strong and solid as possible.
2007-02-22 23:43:49 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start a family at least with a gap of 2 years after marriage. enjoy the bliss of marriage for some time. live-in and marriage is for sure very different.
2007-02-23 00:05:19 · answer #6 · answered by delnaz k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you feel you are emotionally ready to have children than go for it, i had my children very young and i don't regret it not one bit, i am a young grandmother and feel great me and my kids are very close and get along real well, their friends think I'm like the coolest mom ever. and my kids are not embarrassed to hang out with me lol
2007-02-22 23:59:42 · answer #7 · answered by fallen_angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont believe there is a wrong or right time to start having a family. When it happens...it happens! Good luck!
2007-02-22 23:36:48 · answer #8 · answered by BE HAPPY! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
have ur kids when u dont have to worry about ur career.they always come first, but not in this day and time...mp
2007-02-23 01:55:46 · answer #9 · answered by franks fishing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it will be different but itw ill be rewarding go for it not everyone can do that. good luck
2007-02-26 21:54:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋