I am dating this guy who i've completely fallen head over heels for. He's the best thing to ever come into my life! I KNOW im in love and its deep. I can feel that hes the one im supposed to marry, i just feel it. I feel like hes my soulmate and the one for me. However...if he doesnt feel the same does that mean my feelings are wrong? That he might not be my soulmate? He says hes never been in love like this and wants to marry me too and we're 'in love' very much, but sometimes he says 'hes not sure if im the right woman for him' but its when hes feeling insecure or when we have an argument or bad day or something. Anyway my main question i want answered is, 'If he doesnt feel the same way, does that mean hes not my soulmate?'
2007-02-22 15:25:52 · 18 answers · asked by wantingtoknow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Seriously now, if he were your soulmate you wouldn't have to ask this question and he wouldn't be questioning his love for you. Marriage is serious with a more than 50% divorce rate so in the very least you should know him for 2 yrs before even considering marriage. Think about this, it may not be love, it may be attachment.
Tori
2007-02-22 15:30:41 · answer #1 · answered by Incognito 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
First off, get rid of the "soulmate" language. Men do not like that phrase. It has been a key word or buzz word like "surreal". Why is everything surreal these days?
Second, if you feel the love and are in love that is great. From personal experience, I was that way too when I met my now wife. However, we never communicated deeply. 11 years into this, she calls me her soulmate and I laugh at the idea because she will not or is incapable of telling me anything of her dreams, her ideas, her fears. She is a cold, calculating business woman who I honestly think can't think on an emotional level.
So, wanna call him soulmate, good for you. I would suggest just start beng his best friend. His equal partner in the relationship. Talk til all hours of the night and find out what he is deep down.
2007-02-22 16:00:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go with what she told you, that she doesnt feel the same way. Anything is possible but it makes no sense waiting for something that may not happen or chasing a girl thats told you she isnt interested in you like that. Be content with being her best friend & find a personal relationship with another girl. Youve already had a sample of what a relationship with her will be like when you guys had the fling. No reason to ruin a good friendship when you know you guys are gonna start fighting which is normal for an intimate relationship especially when someone wants more than the other person. Forget about it.
2016-05-24 01:03:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be your soulmate, but soulmates doesn't mean that you will marry him. Some people are lucky and marry theirs, some people have the same sex soulmates, it is someone that you can connect to at a deeper level, If he says that he loves you and then tells you he doesn't know if you are the right woman for him, then there is something else going on there with him, and I would be careful.
2007-02-22 15:32:35 · answer #4 · answered by Hawaiisweetie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time will tell don't be in such a hurry . I thought my 1st husband was my soulmate years ago .. Boy did that bubble bust... I think God puts people together 4 a reason but i hate to say this ,It may or may not be 4 life........I was very young then ... nothing could have changed back then but it did. GOD blessed me again.....now i don't even think of that man .I would like to believe I will love someone 4 life & that he will love me back .... Is it the same ... I can't answer that anymore & doubt if I ever will be able too.Have you ever heard of a hardened heart?
2007-02-22 15:56:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can all depend on how long you've been dating. Some people take longer than others to know they can commit for a lifetime. It doesn't mean he isn't your soulmate, it just means he is unsure of himself. Don't assume he doesn't feel the same way that you do just because you are sure of your feelings and he isn't sure of his. He may just need a little more time than you do if you haven't dated that long. Remember a lifetime commitment is supposed to be just that so don't try to pressure him to make that commitment until he is sure that it will work.
2007-02-22 15:34:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
the least you should accept when you are looking for a soulmate is someone who feels the same way that you do.
if he is doubting that you are his soul mate than your not,even if it is just him having a bad day, even though it sounds like your just ignoring the obvious. soulmates may get tired of one another,they may even annoy eachother but they dont doubt if they're really meant to be together.
if he is doubting your relationship. PERIOD. yall are not soul mates.
you just have strong feelings for him. thats all.
you get attatched too easily and i doubt that this is the first guy you THOUGHT you were in love with.
break it off with that wacko becasue he is just stringing you along,he doesnt know what he wants.
work on yourself and dont rush into another relationship,too early. let mr.right come to you. instead of you having to waste your time finding him because you cant look everywhere.
2007-02-22 16:27:42 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Correct. You are right. In my opinion "soul mate" means... you guys feelings are mutual. Your soul mate is some one that is meant for you to be with, but if he does feel the same way...then how can you be with him? You will find your soul mate girl, dont worry. And you will know he is your soul mate because the feelings will totally be mutual and you will have no questions in your mind about it. So for now have fun!
2007-02-22 15:34:10 · answer #8 · answered by BE HAPPY! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you like you may have been overreacting to his statements of uncertainty. He's trying to work through his feelings. You are completely certain about your relationship. He is mostly certain, but not as certain as you. Women tend to move faster on this type of thing and your situation seems normal. Be patient and give him time. If you love him, then you owe him this.
2007-02-22 15:39:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the soulmate idea is not working for the both of you, but if i were in your situation, why would i even want to marry someone who does not know what he wants, who constantly tells himself that he does not know and is not even sure if you are the right woman for him , he seems not that sincere, i dont want to get trapped with that kind of situation all my life
2007-02-22 15:30:55 · answer #10 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋